tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32530139994070507222024-03-05T08:12:46.628+01:00Spiritual and earth lifeThis blog teaches on how to develop oneself on earth and spirituallyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521336965090443590noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3253013999407050722.post-69875912787613126752017-06-06T19:50:00.001+01:002017-06-06T20:55:55.291+01:00INCEST: SURVIVOR'S RIGHTS<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: blue;">Many survivors have serious reservation about their ability to successfully overcome the sexual repercussion of incest. They doubt that they can resolve sexual problems, lose their fear of sex, stop feeling guilty about sex and learn to control the negative feelings they have about sex. Sexual repercussions of incest are multi-dimensional and affects sexual attitudes, beliefs, behaviours, associations, and self-concept. Thus, trying to overcome the sexual repercussions of incest can feel much like wrestling with a giant octupos, unless you have a sense of what you are doing. Sexual problems that resulted from incest do not go away by themselves, treating them successfully requires an effective, well-focused effort that addresses the ingrained results of the abuse. This is why seeking a professional help in form of psychotherapy is recommended. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><u>SELF-IMAGE</u></span><br />
<span style="color: #cc0000;">Survivors must realize that their body is theirs. They are the real owners of their bodies. Survivors must learn on their own to feel better about their bodies and better about the expression of their sexual energy. Since survivors experienced their bodies as objects manipulated for another's benefit, they were denied a comfortable opportunity to develop ownership and control over their bodies and the expression of their sexual energy. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">General body acceptance can be facilitated when survivors take the time to admire their precious bodies, to privately look at themselve in the mirror, in their birthday suit. Looking at their genital area, touching their sexual parts to explore the different sensations are all good ways to extend the ownership to more sexual areas.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Survivors can create a foundation for positive future sexual relationships by learning how to distinguish caring touches from exploitive ones. Caring touch respects the receiver's feelings and gives the receiver room to say no at anytime. Exploitive touch is primarily for the benefit of the offender. Non sexual relationships that involves an excharge of touch through hand-holding, hugs, friendly kisses and physical closeness can be very healing to incest survovors and can help them establish trust and a sense of physical control.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">"I'm finding that in my foster home I'<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">m getting the love that <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">I never got from my father.<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> I<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> had thought that affection from fathers was them lusting after my body. Since I<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> was four y<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">ears old, which is when<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> m<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">y mom married my stepdad, what I<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> remember is him going a<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">fter my body and just wanting my body. Now<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> my foster father kisses me good night or kisses me goo<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">dbye, and he's showing me love in a <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">secure way and the way in which a father should show<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">love. He's really good about it. He told me t<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">hat if he ever did<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> anything that made me uncomfortable, hugging me or something, I should just <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">say so and <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">he would find it really understandable. I'm tempted to call<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> him <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Dad because <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">I<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> never had a dad who was nice like that. He was the one who said i couldn't kiss my boyfriend, but he did that to protect me. He said he knew<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> I could<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> just go out and do whatever i felt like, but he told me that <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">it <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">was be<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">cause he loved me, and loved me as much as any <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">of his <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">daughters, that h<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">e didn't <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">want me to <span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">do certain things. He shows me the same kind of things that he shows any of the other kids in his home<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">". </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The following "bill of rights" can serve as a reference for survivors in developing assertive attitudes and behaviours regarding sex.</span><br />
<b><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><u>Bill of <span style="font-family: inherit;">Sexual Right For <span style="font-family: inherit;">Survivors</span></span></u></span></span></b><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to own my own body. </span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to my own feelings, beliefs, opinions and perceptions.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to trust my own value about sexual contacts.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to set my own sexual limits.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to say no. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to say yes.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have the right to experience sexual pleasures.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have the right to be sexually assertive.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have the right to be the initiator in a sexual relationship. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have the right to be in control of my sexual experience.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to have a loving partner.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to my sexual preferences. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to have a partner who respect me, understands me, and is willing to communicate with me.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to talk to my partner about the incest. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to ask questions. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #38761d;">I have a right to receive accurate sexual information.</span><span style="color: blue;"><br /></span></li>
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<span style="color: blue;">REST IN PEACE, you must have heard this statement countless times. But have you ever find some moment to ponder on this statement? When someone dies a physical death, the next statement is "May his/her gentle soul rest in peace". You might have come across another statement like " May his or soul rest in the bosom of the lord". Even on obituaries, you can still see such statements on them. "Rest in peace" is often said with an awful state of mind. It strike fear and horror to the speaker and makes him or her sober in reflection as to what is the next thing after death. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">I do not mean to strike fear into the mind of my readers, although death is really nothing to be feared and it is a natural order of nature. In Gross material world, death is necessary, the same way birth is necessary. It is a circle that every matter in this physical world must pass through.You, reading this article, as the day goes by, every moment, everyday, every hour, every minute and second is so, so invaluable, because as time goes on, you are approaching your death. Everything earthly remains here on earth. Your physical body is earthly, and it will remain here on earth when the life force that animates it depart.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">What happens to the departed soul? Do the departed soul really rest in peace? I want you to take sometime off this article and ponder about these question!!!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Let me make it known to you again here in this article that your physical bodies is not the YOU. Your soul is not the YOU. You are a spirit being. But you must make use of your physical body in this physical world and your soul in the ethereal world as well. You need these bodies to interact in each respective environment, region, plane that you may find yourself in subsequent creation. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Just like i wrote in one of my previous articles that "THE ARRIVAL OF MAN" and "INTRODUCTION TO CREATION" that you are on a journey, and when the time is right, you will leave this physical body, this physical world and continue on your journey. You came into this physical world, incarnated into your physical body in your mother's womb, you were born and surely you will leave the physical body to perish here. Your physical body was of the earth and to the earth shall it remain.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; For out of it wast thou taken: For dust thou art, and unto dust thou shalt return." </span></i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">[Bible~ Genesis 3:19]</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Now where the<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span>soul is returning to, is there rest for <span style="font-family: inherit;">the </span>soul there?</span></span></span></span></span></span><span style="color: #cc0000;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Now at the death of your physical body {The last breathe}, you will discover that you are still conscious of your envirinment but not breathing and you will be staring straight at your inanimate physical body. The soul is always in close proximity to the lifeless body because it is still connected to it with something that looks like a cord. This cord must be disconnected in other for the soul to move on. How long it takes for this cord to be disconnected depends entirely on the soul itself. Depending on the lightness or the heaviness {dark} of the particular soul. It is easier and faster for the lighter souls than the darker souls.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">Now, lets just assume that the soul has finally been disconnected from its physical body, then the soul will have no choice but move on. The Primordial laws of creation, swings into action, every soul is served what it duly deserved. The law of Reciprocal, The law of gravitation, and The law of homogeneous species. According to the density of the soul, it is either the soul floats upward to the luminous region or sinks downward to the dark region of the ethereal world. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Every soul in the beyond, will be attracted to the region where its density is compactible to that environment which it finds itself. Just like your stay here on earth, you can interact, feel and sense your physical environment, the same with you in the beyond. you can feel pain, feel loved, over there too. In this your new environment, you will be attracted to souls of similar characteristics. It is only on earth that the good and the bad, the beauty and the beast {beast, i mean ugly} dwell among themselves.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Now, the beyond is not Paradise for the light soul and hell for the dark soul{Hell, i.e a place with a razing inferno}. Remember, like i always write, that your existence here is a journey. You have come from somewhere, and you are destined to returned back to your origin, the spiritual home of man {but unfortunately, so many will not make it home}. So after this earthlife, you cannot just find yourself in paradise, and rest in the bosom of God, No!!! Immediatly a soul leaves this earthlife, it continues its journey i.e if the soul is not earthbounded. Journeying back to paradise, is like climbing a ladder, for you to get to the top you must take a step upward at a time. So this earthlife is like a step for you to move upward into the beyond, then in the beyond too, there are steps you have to take also in other to move on. And you can even decide to remain stagnant {earthbound} or sink downward.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">I wish i can talk about "Heaven and hell" in this article, but i will not. I donot want to confuse. But incase you cannot comprehend my writing here, please read the previous articles with spirituality topics</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">I put it to you now, that souls do not rest, when they leave this physical world. they move on and continue on their journey. So i admonish you today, do what you think is right for yourself. If you are good, you are good for yourself and if you are bad, then you are bad for yourself. You alone determines your direction in creation. You alone can determine if you will rise high up to paradise or perish here in this subsequent world. It is easier to repent here on earth than in the beyond. And you can save yourself alot of terrible experiences in the beyond. It is your choice. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Genuine love for all is what you need to climb this ladder to paradise. Love for humanity. Love for every living thing. Love for your immediate environment. And the most important of them all, Love for your God, your Creator.{You can only love God by living in accordance to the Will of God}. </span><br />
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<u><i><span style="color: blue;"><u><span style="color: #38761d;"><span id="goog_1850202926"></span><span id="goog_1850202927"></span>Sex appetite:</span></u> </span></i></u><span style="color: blue;">Lack of sexual desire is a common complaint of incest survivors. It appears related to an array of problems associated with arousal. Regardless of whether survivors felt pain, pleasure or numbness during the actual physical experience of the incest. Most of them seem to identify sexual arousal with the feelings they had during their sexually abused experiences. At the time of the incest their concept of sexuality and their biological responses to sexual stimulation became associated with their negative feelings toward the abuse. This negative conditioning is very strong in survivors because the sexual abuse usually constituted their first experience with overt sexual stimulation and their negative feelings were reinforced through the repetition of the sexual abuse.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">" It's difficult to enjoy stimulation to my genital area when that stimulation vividly reminds me of a previous offensive experience" </span></i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">So women who were violetly and sadistically assaulted during abuses later report that sexual arousal has become paired with violent sexual behaviour.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>"A twenty-six years old woman was subjected to fondling, intercourse and oral sex for five years by her brother and was tortured, tied up, locked in a small room and raped with objects said: "Many women including me, are attracted to what happened and very aroused with a repeat. Why do you think bondage, S/M , e.t.c are so popular? It's a repeat of incest- This is how i react. Loving gentle sex i<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">s</span> too scary- a repeat of "torture" is arousing in a very scary way"<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">. </span></i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Exerpt from INCEST AND SEXUAL<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">ITY.</span></span></span><i><br /></i></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Thoughts and sensations that occur naturally during sex, such as heavy breathing, the smell of sweet, moaning sounds and sensual touching may trigger a flash back to the incest. Incest is sexual, and so by its very nature it has sexual repercussions for its victims. These repercussions can function as sexual dissabilities blocking healthy expression and enjoyment of sex. However, the sexual problems resulting from early abuse needs not be permanent. Survivors can come to realize they can make the needed change, in most case, when they are motivated and supported.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><u><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Low self esteem and bad self-<u>image:</u></span> </i></u>A girl child's self-concept is built by taking in messages from the important adults in her life. When she is praised, supported and encouraged, she will probably like herself and feels she is worthwhile.In contrast, a girl who gets the message that what she feels and wants does not matter will come to feel that she is not lovable. She may feel discourage and believes she does not deserve to be cared for by others. Her basic sense of self-worth can easily become associated with her ability to second guess the needs of other people in her family.</span><span style="color: blue;"> </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The unsupported girl child may strive to be perfect in the eyes of her family. An unsupported child is not different from the supported ones, the difference is in her perception i.e what they have heard, and being thought are quite different.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">In incest, survivors learned not to expect reciprocity in relationships. In an incestuous families, the offending male adults, always uses lies and deception to change the mindset of this girls. It is quite difficult and sometimes painful for a child to perceive her parent as a lier. In most cases, they believe the lies to be true.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Many survivors report having strong negative feelings toward their bodies; "ugly", "repulsive" and "disgusting" are words victims frequently use to describe themselves. These feelings serve to fuel self-hatred guilt. Survivors may respond to having negetive feelings about their bodies in a variety of ways. They may hide their bodies with excessive weight, clothes and hairstyle, may neglect their hygiene, may flaunt their bodies with seductive dresses may harm their bodies by taking extreme physical risk or by abusing drugs and alcoholic or may fail to nourish and generally care for themselves.</span><br />
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"<i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">He always told me I was really beautiful, but I never could quite believe him, because whenever you look in the mirror at yourself you always see this ugly image of yourself. I thought he was just saying that to make me feel better about myself so that i would do what he wanted me to. What I got was a comparison between my mom and me. He'd say my breast were so much fuller and firmer than my mom's, or my body was so much more supple, and all this, which didn't really say anything about me as a person; it was just in comparison to my mom. I really don't know what he could expect, because during most of it, my mom was pregnant".<span style="color: black;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY.</span></span></span></i><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">" I hated myself and couldn't get along with others. I was always getting into trouble at school for fighting. My life was miserable. I got poor grades and spent most of the time alone. I retreated from life. When i was at home i spent most of my time in my bedroom, usually crying. I wanted to belong. I wanted to have friends, but i had established a reputation for being a poor sport and a fighter. I was a loner. During recess I sat by myself. I knew the other kids didn't want to play with me. I was a social reject, a complete outcast. In the sixth grade I was a total reject. I was always late for school. I rarely had homework done on time. I was irresponsible. I was forgetting everything. I wore hand-me-down clothes that were outdated. My hair was unkempt and I didn't care for myself. I had tried to change over the years, but something always held me back". </span></i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY.</span></span></span><i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><br /></span></span></i><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><i><u>Definition of incest survivor</u></i></span>:</span><br />
<span style="color: blue;">A survivor is someone who survived and endured the harsh experiences incest. Incest survivors are victims who endured throughout the incest experiences. The pressure is no longer there again, probably the victim has been seperated from the offender or the offender was caught and prosecuted. Whichever way, the incest has stopped. The victim is now an incest survivor.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">The effect of incest on survivors here, i mean the effect when the sexual abuse no longer occur again. When the incest has stopped, even after sexual abuse has long been halted. The effect of incest on the victim could last her lifetime, if not helped. The effect could be more devastating in female survivor than their male counterpart. The survivor, even after many years will still feel the effect of the incest. The following are some of the effect of incest on survivors.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><u><i>Social and sexual withdrawal</i></u></span><span style="color: blue;"><u><i><b><span style="color: #cc0000;">:<u> </u></span></b></i></u><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">In the teens years following sexual abuse, survivors often gravitate toward one of the extreme lifestyles. The survivor becomes socially and sexually withdrawn. The withdrawal response can reflect a survivor's fear about sex, anxieties about partners, and poor self-image. Symptoms of withdrawal include refusing dates, staying socially isolated, acting as if sex does not exist and denying sexual feelings. In marriage, survivors may have distorted idea about what will be expected of them when they go out with their spouse. They may imagine that dating will require sexual willingness and responsiveness. They believe basically that every male adult is only interested in sleeping with her. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Survivors may have little confident in their abilities to say no or to protect themselves and may instead want a situation in which they expect to once again feel overpowered and paralyzed. Please take note, when i wrote dating, i mean relationship that is potentially going to lead to marriage. The essence of a perpetual relationship is to eventually get married. Stop wasting your energy in fruitless relationships, rather, use that time to develop yourself, realizing the real person that your are. releasing the potentials in you. Spend more time developing yourself physically {Exercising, good hygiene, high self esteem and self image etc.}, mentally {cultivate the habit of reading}, improve your emotional intelligent {very important} and spiritually {Love your neighbour as yourself}…</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Some survivors who withdraw socially and sexually, always have the problem of keeping a successful marriage, because withdrawal can lead to a boring marriage and not all men are emotionally matured enough to handle such situation. Survivors who show symptoms of withdrawal really need help. If you had been a survivor of any form of sexual abuse, and find yourself withdrawing from the society, your family, your friends, relatives etc. then you need a therapist or any medical proffession that can help you get you get back on track.</span><span style="color: blue;"> </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><u><i>Promiscuity:</i></u></span><span style="color: blue;"> <span style="color: #38761d;">Some survivor can become promiscuous in nature. They learn from incest that heir sexual attentions can give them a feeling of special power over men. They fail to see how superficial this feeling is and how much it reflects a reaction to the powerlessness they experience earlier in life. Many survivors use sexual promiscuity to prove to themselves that their sexuality is in their own, meaning they are in full control of their promiscuity by choosing to sleep with many partners. The survivor can attempt to give herself a sense of being in control. Indescriminate sexual activity may have other repercussion as well, such as unwanted pregnancies, abortions, venereal disease, loss of respect and exploitation, all of which impact negatively on self-esteem. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">In a situation where the victim had to run away from the place of sexual abuse due to the overwhelming pressure from the offender {This pressure could include physical abuses also from the offender}. Such survivors who has no one to fall back on, no place to reside, except in the wild. For such, she is almost likely going to use the only asset she owns to survive i.e prostitution. </span><br />
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<u><i><span style="color: blue;">Lesbianism:</span></i></u><i><span style="color: blue;"> </span></i><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">Incest, which are such a profoundly upsetting experience, seems to bring with it the possibility of influencing sexual preference in many different ways. Some survivors feel more attracted to same-sex partners because of the influence of incest they experienced while growing up. Some may feel safer and more comfortable with female because the female body lacks many of the reminders of the abuse they experienced, such as the penis, masculinity, semens, deep voice, body hair etc.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">In this article, i will be dealing with incest that has been occurring for quite a long time undetected. For incest that has been in existence for quite a long time, the victims are always helpless. The victims always believe that they have no choice and that nothing can be done to halt the incestuous activities that they are experiencing on a regular basis. In most instances, these helpless little children/adolescents are afraid to disclose the incest because of the aftermath of the incest disclosure. Most at times, the victims that cannot dislose the incest, will definitely find a means of coping with the molestation.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">During molestation, incest victims are subjected to high degree of stress mentally, and physically. They may be flooded with feelings of fear, panic, confusion and betrayal, and may suffer from enormous anxiety. For the younger children, their bodies are undeveloped and unprepared for sexual activities, the physical sensations of the abuse can be overwhelming, creating discomfort, unbearable pain or unusual pleasures. There are different ways in which sexually abused victims cope with the pressure of the abuses. Coping methods are critical ways victims find to protect their sense of well-being and personal integrity. Because of the intense stress of sexual abuse, failure to employ coping methods could seriously jeopardize a victim's sanity. While the methods employed may vary, they all appear to facilitate mental escape from the abuse or relief from the stress of physical sensation. The following are coping methods use by victims.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">Victims can dissociate from the incest by divorcing themselves mentally from the incestuous experience. Dissociation permit them to blank out and be somewhere else in their minds. They create a body-mind split so they do not have to stay mentally present and fully experience from conscious memories. Victims are sometimes, left not feeling fully themselves in many other situations. Dissociation helps the victim, a deep wish to believe that the incest never really happened.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">A victim can dissociate herself by divorcing her attention and mind away from the actual occurrence she is experiencing. At that moment, she might focus her attention and control on a part of her body that was not being invaded. Some victims can even engage themselves in other activities around them. Yet some will become absent minded, becoming totally removed from that particular place they are being violated.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">"<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i>During these episodes she would concentrate all her awareness the sounds of children playing outside the house. She vividly imagined herself being them instead with her father." <span style="color: black;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY</span></i></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i> "There are times when we have sex together that i find myself checking out of the sex. There's a plant that hangs above our bed, and that's what i will usually do- find a spot on the ceiling or on the wall or the corner of the room or something. i will just try to go there. Once in a while we 'll get going and i feel like somethings going to come up and i can feel that i do it again. But it's not any thing that's really creating a problem with us, because i think i'm coming alive sexually." <span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY</span></span></i></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">Some victims learned amnesia as a response to sexual contact. They seems to be taken away mentally from the place of incest and forget totally about the abuse each time the offender leaves. Extreme forms of dissociation are evident in some victims who establish a mind-body split that cause them to leave the physical reality of a sexual situation and enter into state totally unrelated to who and where they are at that time.</span></span><br />
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"<span style="color: blue;"><i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">During incest, penetration was always painful, but i could ignore it and laugh it off...[Now] I never withdraw my body from the scene- my body doesn't have<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"> </span>to fear because my mind leaves and my body becomes an object. When my mind is in total control, my body then joins my mind somewhere else. Then this is happening outside my body- Orgasm happens, but it is not my body. It is someone else, somewhere else, in another place and time." </span></span></span></i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span style="color: black;">E<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">xcerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY</span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUOTC88nw_Dx-ErqAi0XqXURjJOKrGkAHX8P20xVwVfb7ZDh7xEW5x2YchL5cOQ-U99Q0ZtS4gdPQ3xE86OAWpU9yjck5-S78sjSfipUHjseS0UmSex3oaWEO4MSNk-LO37u3Oamj7yjUz/s1600/canstock9330184.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUOTC88nw_Dx-ErqAi0XqXURjJOKrGkAHX8P20xVwVfb7ZDh7xEW5x2YchL5cOQ-U99Q0ZtS4gdPQ3xE86OAWpU9yjck5-S78sjSfipUHjseS0UmSex3oaWEO4MSNk-LO37u3Oamj7yjUz/s1600/canstock9330184.jpg" /></a><span style="color: #cc0000;">Survivors who used the dissociation method of coping sometimes experience difficulty with their abilities to control this dissociative response to sexual activities. They can become vulnerable to developing multiple personality problems. multiple personality problem is one the effect that a sexually abused female might developed, If help is not extended to her. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><u><b><span style="color: blue;">N<u>UMBING THE PART OF THE BODY THAT IS ABUSED: </u></span></b></u></span><br />
<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #38761d;">This is another method developed by some sexually abused children/adolescents is numbing the body. Numbing the body can be an important protective measures taken during times of physical pain, but the repercussion is always visible when victims has become a full grown adult, physically ready for relationship. But mentally and sexually, they are not. The victims has the ability to create disruption in becoming sexually aroused. The incestuous experiences has made the poor rigid or limp. They suspect every touch from male. They assume that touching is for someone else's benefit instead of their own. incest victims or survivors may find themselves unable to feel comfortable with a simple hug.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><u><b>DRUGS AND ALCOHOL CONSUMPTION: </b></u></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;">This coping method is mostly applied by the older children {you know what i mean by older children? if not, go back to my previous articles on INCEST} that are sexually abused. Many turns to alcohol and hard drugs to help themselves escape mentally and physically during the incest. </span></span></span><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">"One survivor described drinking alcohol and taking drugs almost every night from age twelve onward.During the period of the incest, she would do this until she obtained a state of semi-consciousness so that when her father entered her room, she could be less aware of what he was doing to her."<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"> </span></span></span></i><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Excerpt from INCEST AND SEXUALITY</span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">Apart from using drugs and alcohol, the victim can also pretend to be sleepin during the abuse. They shut their eyes and make their bodies go completely limp.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"> <u>TO </u><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><u><b>RELAX<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"> </span>AND ENJOY<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"> </span>THE WHOLE SHOW<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;">:</span></b></u></span></span><br />
<span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"><u><b><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace;"> </span></b></u><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">When a victim cannot control the abuse she is experiencing and its been going on for quite sometime, then they have to develop a way of coping with the painful and stressful act. One of the coping method she is likely to exhibit, is to relax and enjoy whole show. Every fondling, every touch, for each penetration, she enjoys every bit of it. So the victim just simple give in to the offender without any struggle at all. In a situation where the victim has tried all she could to stop the incest but to no avail, or she is doing for a reason {probably to protect the interest of someone or so...}, such victims will is less likely to put up a resistant fight when abused sexually.</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">However, when early sexual experiences are perceived as both pleasurable and repugnant, there may be a sense of betrayal by one's own body. Self-hatred towards one's body and genitals can result. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">Protective skill developed by victims themselves are very important and creative means which are used in dealing with the sexual abuses.They are positive and absolutely necessary. However, These coping methods become problem only when the situation has change and they are no longer useful, that is, when these methods are used continuingly, even after the incest has stopped. It is important for survivors to remember that these coping methods were learned and they are no longer useful again after the incest has stopped. New ways of feeling safe can now be learned.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;">You might be wondering why i am writing on INCEST, Remember, this blog is all about spiritual life and earth life. Incest has become a menace in our society, no matter where you are reading this from, as long as you reside on this planet, then you belong to one community or the other. Alot of female children/adolescents are suffering on a daily basis from those who really should have shown them much love. Should you be the male offender, please i beg you, get help, i know you cannot stop it on your own because it could be an addiction, the more reason you need help. Should you fall into the category of the non-offenders and you know a child/adolescent that is sexually abused, endevour to help her. Probably, in one of the subsequent article on INCEST, i am going to inform you about how to get help. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">On earth, humans are the only being granted by the Creator to form words. Not only to form words but to use it as a means of communication among themselves. It was a gracious gift given to human being on the course of his journey for his development. Words, just like thoughts and deeds [in short, words are deeds too], there will also be a repercussion for every word you utter out. Becareful what you let out of your mouth, because they can determine your fate here on earth. Remember, Your words are firmly anchored in the Primordial laws of Creation, so be careful what you mutter, because just like actions and thoughts, they will always return to you heavily laden. And the effect can either be beneficial or painful to you.</span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><br /><span style="color: #cc0000;">Words are formed, from words, phrase/clause are formed, from phrase, sentences are formed, this are the capabilities of the human spirit alone. Your words can be used to develop your develop your yourself both spiritually and physically. For every word you mutter, in the Ethereal world, it takes on form and it will sooner or later manifest itself in this Gross material world(physical world of ours). </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">You can use your words for the upliftment of humanity and this subsequent creation at large or you can also use it for destructive purposes, then it up to you. The consequences of your words will fall back on you. You will surely reap what you sow, and you shall reap it in multiple folds. It like planting a maize seed, at the time of harvest you are sure going to reap more than one seed. The same way the Law of Reciprocal action works. You can call it whatsoever you wish to call it, but the truth still remains that the workings of the this Primordial Law can be observed in all of Creation.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Now, my aim here in this article is to delibrate on the wrong use of words. Using of words in a destructive manner. Your words are destructive, if it is not uplifting. Even when your are admonishing someone, donot admonish to your pride, do it genuinely. Gossiping is one of ways of using words wrongly, because nothing good will ever come out of gossiping.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">Gossip means an idle talk, when you converse with another or give an untrue report about the third person, in his or her absence, then it is a gossip. It is totally wrong to meddle in people's personal issues all in the bid to bring them down.</span><br />
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"<i><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Oh y<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">e </span>who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth, lest you harm </span></span></i><i><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">people unwittingly and afterward<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">s,</span> become full repentance for what<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"> ye had done."</span> </span></span></i> {Qur'an 49:6}<br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Do not join others in spreading rumour about someone, or his/her personal issues, especially when the intention of the unconfirmed news is evil. What you cannot say about a person in his/her presence, donot say it in his/her absence. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">If you really wants to grow spiritually, you must learn how to talk less. Minimize the number of words you mumble. The human spirit was not meant to speak unintelligently and senselessly. Jesus admonished us to use few words. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Becareful of those that talk much! Be very careful of them all. Those who talk much <span style="font-family: inherit;">are always backbiters, gossipmonger and rumou<span style="font-family: inherit;">rmongers</span>, slanderers<span style="font-family: inherit;">, liers, <span style="font-family: inherit;">cajolers.</span> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"> "</span><span style="color: #134f5c;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">He that goeth about as a<span style="font-family: inherit;"> talebearer revealeth secrets: therefore, meddle not with <span style="font-family: inherit;">him that flattereth with his <span style="font-family: inherit;">lips</span>." </span></span></span></i></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span>{Bible~Proverb 20:19}<span style="color: #134f5c;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><i><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span></span></i></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="color: #38761d;">Just like deed, what really matter <span style="font-family: inherit;">in words is the inten<span style="font-family: inherit;">tion beh<span style="font-family: inherit;">in<span style="font-family: inherit;">d the<span style="font-family: inherit;">se </span>words. Your vo<span style="font-family: inherit;">lition behind every tho<span style="font-family: inherit;">ughts, words <span style="font-family: inherit;">and deeds matter<span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span>alot.T<span style="font-family: inherit;">he lord Jesus give the following statement about the intention behind a thought while he was teaching: </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">From now on, always endeavor to let the volition behind your thoughts, words and deeds to be pure. Let your words become a shining light to others. Let your words serve as means of encouragement to others. Your words should bring beauty and love to earth, not destruction and seperation. Let people find your words, trustworthy. Be a man or a woman of few words.</span><br />
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"<span style="color: #38761d;">Therefore, pay attention to all words: for they hold joy or sorrow for you, they build up or disintegrate, they bring clarity but can also confuse, according to the manner in which they are spoken and applied."</span><br />
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"<span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i>Heed your wolds! let your speech be simple and true! in accordance with the Holy Will of God, it contains an ability to form in an upbuilding way and also in a destroying ways, depending on the nature of the words and the speaker.<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">" </span></i></span></span>{IN THE LIGHT OF TRUTH}<span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i> </i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>I hereby wish to end this article with the quote of Gautama Buddha; </i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>"If speech have five marks, O monastics, it is well spoken, not badly spoken, blameless, and above reproach by the wise. What are this five marks? It is speech that is timely, true, gentle, purposeful, and spoken with a mind of loving kindness."</i></span></span><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;"><i><br /></i></span></span><br />
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"<span style="color: blue;">THE KINGDOM GOD" also known as THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN! What do you understand about this kingdom? The Son of God, Jesus, taught about the KINGDOM using parables. Why did Jesus emphasied so greatly on the matters relating to the Kingdom of Heaven? Even to the extent of sending his disciples as apostles to preach about the Kingdom of God. Infact, the purpose of the coming of the lord Jesus christ was based on the Kingdom of God. He taught with parables of the sower, parable of the hidden treasures, parable of the leaven. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #990000;">What do understand by the phrase: <b><i>THE KINGDOM OF GOD OR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN? </i></b>In the artcle "DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND ANIMAL" and "INTRODUCTION TO CREATION", I wrote about the origin of man and that of animals. The human spirit originated from the spiritual realm. At the crown of creation, the spiritual realm is situated. You! as a spirit being, your origin is from the topmost part of creation, from where you journeyed down to this Gross material world. And on the course of your journey, the unconscious spirit spark to a conscious human spirit. But the truth is that majority of the human spirits on earth are fast asleep, indolence of the spirit. Only through your own effort can you work out your salvation for yourself. Many cannot even pray for themselves without consulting the assistance of a so called man of God. Your church or temple cannot help you in this matter. You alone can help yourself. You seriously need to be awaken! </span></span><br />
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The KINGDOM OF GOD, also called THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN is the home of the human spirit. It is the paradise. The paradise from which ones the unconscious spirit spark was evicted, and has the need to return home as a developed and conscious human spirit. Just because The spiritual realm is called THE KINGDOM OF GOD does not mean that it is the abode of THE ALMIGHTY CREATOR. Even The Divine beings cannot behold the countenance of GOD, not to talk of a Spirit being.<br />
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<span style="color: blue;">A glimpse of THE KINGDOM OF GOD was shown to John and he gave account of what he saw in Rev 21:21-27, about the street made of gold. It is so unfortunate that so many will not be able to make it there.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;">The question is, how can you make it back to paradise? Jesus gave us the answer. The two statements pave the way to paradise. The first and the most important is "Hear O isreal; The Lord Our God Is One Lord". The second is, "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself". This two qoutes are so powerful that you can trace your way back home, if and only if you can put them into practice. make them your daily lifestyle. Make this words your daily experiences. Other prophets like Zoroster, budha, prophet Mohammed (SAW), Moses etc. came with similar message, but they are mostly ignored. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;">Before now, you have always pictured the Kingdom of God differently. Mostly christians, always picture heaven as a place in which a powerful being, in an human form, with white bear and hairs, dressed in white robe, sitting on a throne, with his bright lighten countenance. Wrong!!! God does not reside in Spiritual world, Only feel the nearness of God can be felt. The Creator Itself does not reside there.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;">It is true that there is no night in paradise, no sun, no moon, it is bright naturally, even you, your spirit body is shiny bright. No sorry, no death, no corruption, nothing evil thought can be conceived at all. All is working in accordance with the Promordial laws governing Creation.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"> <span style="color: #38761d;">Jesus demanded that you seek first the Kingdom of God. </span></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #cc0000;"><span style="color: #38761d;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">Love your neighbour the way you will love yourself. Treat others in the same manner you want them to treat you. Learn to be a good giver, because only in giving, can you truly receive. And most important of all, love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, soul and mind. With all that you possessed.</span></span></span> </span><br /><span style="color: #cc0000;"></span></span></span><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRTIP0bWWNF4yik7u4yxAUXl8IYpMvDyoXPZFJv9oH5eclWOc3qqdJy7Gzs9hntBvxj8i_Jrk9ZPgYNVdiRKHKiM1ALbhtknDl1AG1nDkUE6T43kP1Raoe8ITxotzXLYz53l5eiRXW7MtY/s1600/canstock19828407.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><span style="color: blue; text-align: left;">Incest involving an adult and a minor, the minor hardly consent to being painfully violated. For incest involving a younger child(if you have been following my past articles, you will understand what i mean by younger child), it is totally unacceptable. To that child it is very painful, so why would a child consent to a painful activities like painful sex. sexual offenders uses their victim's age, dependence, and immaturity to their advantage. Most sexually abusive incest take place repeatedly over time. The method used by perpetrators to coerce these children/ unprepared adolescent into sexual activities and keep it secret with the children varies and depending on the situation on ground. There are many methods but i will discuss only two or three in this article.</span></a><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: blue; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: underline;">Children/adolescent grooming: </span><span style="color: #cc0000;">A groomer in this aspect is someone who seems to take care of the particular child/adolent victim. In an incestuous setting, the groomer could be her father, step-father, uncle, male family friend (even neighbours) etc. Out of all the children in that particular family, the groomer seems to give preferential treatment to this particular child/adolescent. Buying of gifts, creating a form of familiarity with the prospective victim. Taking her out, dashing out enticing promises just to get closer to her. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">The main purpose of grooming a child/adolescent in case of sexually abusive incest is to allow for sometimes for the child/adolescent to become familiar with the offender. They draw closer by being seemingly nice to their prospective victims. The child/adolescent out of her innocency, might even have a crush on these intended offender. In an instance where the groomer is the father, he will try as much as possible to convince the poor girl that she is the most important among her sibling. He will show over protectiveness and try to isolate the intended victim. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Now, when trust is gained, the groomer strikes, mostly by seduction.</span><span style="color: blue;">They make it look to the girl like there is nothing </span><span style="color: blue;">wrong</span><span style="color: #38761d;"> </span><span style="color: blue;">in watching pornography, all in the bid to develop sex interest in her. Some groomer might make the poor girl child victim believe that she is assumming the role of a girl friend and even the role of a mother incase the girl is his daughter or step.</span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><br /></span><span style="color: blue;"><u style="color: blue; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Offenders appearing needy:</u><span style="color: #cc0000;"> In some incestuous family, the mother might be physically down (sick), emotionally weak, or psycholgically distressed, overwhelmed with the house chores, her work taking much of her time or simply showing a nonchalant attitude toward her family matters. The first daughters always fall victim in this setting. The first daughter in this setting, most atimes assumes adult responsibilties in taking care of other family members, the offender inclusive, in the absence of her mother. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #38761d;">The offender will make the minor feels like they need being taken care of and the poor girl, being naive, might fall for such trick. Sometimes, these girl do it in other to protect the other family members. For example, a girl child can go into incest with her step father, with the intention, that is younger ones are not to be touched by the same offender. Another example, a girl can go into incest with the father or step father in order to save her mom's marriage.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: #38761d;">Some offenders may even plead and try to convince the minor verbally, saying all kind of rubbish to this child. I came across an incident in one of our local newspaper recently. In a </span><span style="color: #38761d;">family of five, a father, a mother, two daughters and a son. The mother is always coming back from work very late, the father is a public servant, arrives home not later than 4p.m. The oldest daughter, 11years, does most of the house chores. She prepares daddy's bathing water, prepare his food, etc. After a sweet shower, and a filled tummy, then the need for sexual gratification arises. He calls the poor girl into the bedroom and violate her, while the girl's siblng are watching TV in living room. The girl recalled the first time the incest started, the father strike a conversation as follows; "Come, i need you by my side. come, let me train you into a full woman", "You are the one keeping this family together, your future husband will be lucky to have a responsible person as wife" "please come closer, i need you, your brother and sister needs you, your mom needs you. You have always been a good girl. You can't turn away from us now". Statement like these confuses the girl. She feels guilty and give in to the phidophile father. At the disclosure of the incest, it was discovered that the abuse had been going on for like seven months undetected.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Here is an exerpt from the book <i style="font-weight: bold;">INCEST AND SEXUALITY: "</i>My mom was never home, she worked nights, which was a perfect opportunity. She worked night since i can remember, and that's when he started, because she wasn't ever home. I'd ask him why he was doing it, and he'd tell he did it because my mom wasn't home to do it. I'd tell him that just because she wasn't there, didn't make it my responsibility, but i'd have to do it anyway".</span><br />
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<u style="color: blue; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">FORCED INCEST:</u><span style="color: #cc0000;">In most incest involving a female minor, the offenders is always physically stronger than their victims. The offenders often force sex on the minor. It could start has occassional fondling of the girl's breast and genital, when she is thought to be fast asleep and even when she is awake. Then later graduate into a physical abuses such as slapping, drugged, hitting, blackmails etc. Since the offender is always stronger, they can possibly pin down the victim so easily. Most sexually abused children were overpowered by their offenders, the very first day the abuse started. In this process they sustain injuries in their private part and sometimes bruises on their bodies.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">Here is an exerpt from the book <b>INCEST AND SEXUALITY:</b> </span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">GIRL 1: <i>He used to stick his penis in my bottom. He'd have this stuff on it so it would slide ... He'd make me stand over the counter and i'd tell him it hurted so bad and he'd say, "Here, bite on this wash rag" or something. It was terrible. When he sodomize me, he'd be on the waterbed and i'd be down like that, he'd have his hands on the back of my head... so i couldn't really pull away to breathe.</i></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><i>GIRL 2: I'd bite him!</i></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><i>GIRL 1: When he's about two hundred pounds heavier than yiu, you can't bite him or tell him no. He'd say its all in your head that you don't like it... If you change your attitude... It's your attitude that's bad. You've got the wrong attitude! And i'm sitting there thinking, my attitude! You shouldn't even be doing this!</i></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The annoying thing is that, pedophiles (offenders) always have distorted way of thinking about sex and takes pleasure in listening to the groaning cry of the children/adolescents they are violating.Thinking they are enjoying it. Meanwhile, the children are actually suffering. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> </span><span style="color: #cc0000;">Exerpt from the book <b>INCEST AND SEXUALITY</b>: <i>I was molested by a next-door neighbor. I guess that I was between the ages of four and five when it first started. He-an older, fat, ugly man- had me do various sexual activities with him. This went on for several years, until i was seven years old. I was afraid of this person and i hated the acts. I knew what i was doing was wrong and I was afraid of being caught or my mother finding out. I feel tremendous shame and guilt. There were times when my mother suspected something was going on and confronted me about it, i always denied the fact and felt even more guilt. I was afraid that my mother would think I was a horrible person if she ever found out. The neighbor always gave me candy after he was finished, which i always hid. I suppose that's why my mother started suspecting things. She found a lot of stale candy in bizzare places.Finally my burden became too great, so i confided in one of my older cousins, who spent a lot of time at our house. He was about five or six years older than me, and for some reason I trusted him. That was a great mistake! I don't remember if it was right after i told him or sometime later when he used this information against me. I think i was about six when he blackmailed me. He told me that if i didn't have sex with him, he would tell my parents about the next-door neighbor molesting me. So i let him do with me what he wanted. I felt I hadno other choice. I was scared of getting caught. The pain of intercourse was tremendous. I was also afraid I was going to get pregnant. I was old enough to know how people get pregnant, but i didn't know that I wasn't old enough to get pregnant. My cousin also burned me with a match in my private parts, trying to see what i looked like. I hated him, and still do. </i></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;">In the next article, i will be writing on the THE COPING METHODS USED BY VICTIMS.</span><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> </i></span><span style="color: #38761d;"><br /></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><u><i><b>BEHAVIOUR CHANGE IN AN ABUSED CHILD:</b></i></u></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;">The bodies of younger children are not ready yet, for sexual activities, mentally, they are not ready either. It is more like an unripe organ, undeveloped, unprepared for sexual activities. Their imagination and hallucination, the pain and traumatic stress, which i believe is too much for a child to bear. For older children i.e an adolescent, she might be ripe enough, but the question is, psychologically, is she ready? When it is a dissentaneous incest, then it is a sexual abuse. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"> What are the signs to watch out for in a girl child/adolescent, if you want to know if she is sexually abused? There are always some behavioural changes in sexually abused children/adolescents you can observe carefully, if you really want to help them, the following are the behavioural changes; </span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"> <i><u>FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN {age: 1~10years}:</u></i></span><br />
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<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Bedwetting</span></i></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>Masterbating</i></span></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">unexplained gagging</span></i></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Loss of appetite</span></i></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>Frequent genital infections</i></span><i><span style="color: #cc0000;"> </span></i></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Withdrawal or isolation</span></i></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Explicit sexual knowledge</span></i></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Vicious languages unusual for their age.</span></i></li>
<li><i><span style="color: #cc0000;">Irritability and aggressivenes</span></i></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>Sleeping disturbance</i></span><i><span style="color: #cc0000;"> e.g nightmares.</span></i></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>eating disorder</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i>etc.</i></span></li>
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"> <u><i>FOR OLDER CHILDREN {10~15years}:</i></u></span><br />
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<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Depression</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Drug abuse</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Excessive alcohol consumption</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Low self esteem</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Withdrawal and isolation from social life</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Aversion to going home (Temporary or permanent runaway.)</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Infections</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Abdominal pain</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Muscle ache</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Self-mutilation e.g injuring self,</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Suicide attempt</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Truancy</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Dizziness</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Gagging</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Severe headache</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Seductive behaviour</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Promiscuity</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Prostitution</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Eating disorder</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Sudden weight loss or gain</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Change in school performance</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Delinquent behaviour</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> Excessive masterbating</i></span></li>
<li><span style="color: #cc0000;"><i> etc</i></span></li>
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><i> There are more behavioural changes, but these are the common ones you are likely to notice in a sexually abused child. Should you notice one, two or more of these behavioural changes in a girl child/ adolescent, do not to tag her a bad girl. It is wrong to judge, especially when you do not know the person in quote.</i></span><br />
<span style="color: #38761d;"><i><br /></i></span><span style="color: #38761d;"> Do not look down on them. Do not blame, scold or make them feel guilty. That girl might need your in order for her to break free from the torment of sexual abuses she is experiencing. Such child/adolescent needs your help. She is suffering deeply within her. Help! You can be the help thei child/adolesent needs to break free from traumatic stress. It is common for these signs to be completely ignored by other family members. If there is any response, it always consist of blaming and punishing the poor girl for the exhibited behaviour, not knowing that this change in attitude could be symptoms of being sexually abused. And this abuse can go on undetected for a long time. Long suffering for the poor girl.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">So, i inbibe mothers to watch out for these signs. In most cases, the children/adolescents do not give consent to the offending adult, rather, some are forced into incest through various means of physical abuse e.g being slapped, drugged, held down etc. remember, the offender is in most times stronger than his victim. Feeling of hopelessness, fear of responsibility, depression and threats from the offender keeps the victim from disclosing the incest.</span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><br /></span><span style="color: #cc0000;"> A woman, who was abused from age three to seventeen by her father, step father, brother and uncle gave this account: "<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><i>I thought i'd be blamed and shamed- I had a crush on my step-father, so i thought i caused it at age five. When i was older, a teen, i thought my mother would have a nervous breakdown or else kill someone or some unknown and horribly shameful catastrophe would happen, we were not emotionally closed. I lived in a fantasy world for survival... I was under extreme stress. I felt suicidal, homocidal and schizophrenic. Barely on the edge of sanity, constantly."</i></span></span><br />
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<i style="color: #cc0000; font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"> </i><span style="color: #38761d; font-family: inherit;">Incest involving a child is a forceful rape. A rape in which injuries are opened and re-opened, everytime he penetrates. So, for you to help a sexually abused child/adolescent, the first step is to create some form of acquaintancy between you and the young lady, become her best of friends i.e after you have read the signs already. When she discover that she can trust you with secrets, she might disclosure to you about the incest. All you need is a tangible evidence from her and then from there, you can help her by taking the appropriate steps in helping her.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><u><b>Advice to mothers in incestuous families</b></u>; </span><span style="color: blue;">My advices to all mothers is to pay extra attention to their children's needs. Most especially their emotional needs. As a mother, there is a need for you to open a channel of communication between you and your children at all time. Stop playing boss with your children. Female children are more liable to become closer to their mothers than their male counterpart. It is the female children mostly affected when abused sexually. Should you discover any incident of incest especially, a Father-daughter incest, at first do not lay any blame on yourself. Get enough facts before confronting him. His reaction to the allegation leveled against him will determine your next step.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> If he does not deny the intimacy affair he is having with his step/daughter, and he is ready to get help? Then indeed, he really needs help! Some men will even be glad at being caught, because this can put an end to an addiction that he could not discontinue on his own. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Do not be deceived when a pedophile is remorseful and promise not to engage any child in sexual activities again, then he has repented of his actions, NO! It is not a problem he can handle, he needs help, it is an addiction. If left alone, he is likely to continue with the victim, or source for another victim to devour because it is impossible to stop an addiction at once. So, do not sweep the issue under the carpet, do not let him go without getting help. In Father-daughter incest, the perpetrator, being the father ican be very manipulative and could use another tactics to lure the girl into bed. When the man gets help, he will be able support the girl, in that way, the effect on the girl will be reduced to its minimal. The girl will feel some sense of belonging.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, when your husband does not co-operate, threatens you, which is typical of most african husband, then you have to do the needful, i know the situation might be complicated one, but you just have to try and report him. It is likely that your daughter is not the only victim being tormented by him. Remember, it is an addiction he is battling with, do not expect him stop on his own. Pedophiles do not know how to stop, even if he wishes to stop. Unless you force him to stop.</span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><br /></span> <span style="color: blue;"><b><i><u>FATHERS IN INCESTUOUS FAMILIES {OFFENDERS}:</u></i></b></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;">Fathers or step fathers who sexually abuse their children lead double lives. On the outside, they may appear very normal, you might not be able to distinct them from other fathers. These fathers are member of every religion, race, profession, socioeconomic groups, and varying ages. They could be highly respected in the society, they could be first, second or third class citizens. They could be a very dedicated family men, who are good providers.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Inwardly, sexually abusive fathers or step fathers are psychologically distressed, emotionally isolated and emotional immatured. Their view about sex and sexuality as a whole are distorted. They lack that ability to control self sexually. If a man can control himself sexually, his daughter or step daughter will be the last person he wants to willingly have sex with. Incestuous fathers are filled with very low self-esteem. These set of fathers may even grew up being molested too, as a child. Some seek to attain a feeling of power by exerting themselves as head of the family in an authoritarian way, other family members may feel intimidated by them.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> They are self-appointed experts on all family mathers. Always successfully isolating the other family members from outsiders. Method of accomplishing this ranges from the delibrate embarrassment of guests who are visiting to direct proscribing of family members from interacting with others. Frequently, sexually abusive fathers will turn to alcohol, drugs or other form of escape to dodge the pain they feel inside. Incestuous fathers turns to incest in a vain attempt to meet their emotional, as well their sexual needs.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> On disclosure, abusive fathers will almost uniformly deny having any sexual activities with the victim. Now, when he finally admits, after tangible evidence has been present to him, he may nevertheless deny responsibility for the abuse, he might attempt to absolve himself by shifting blames to his spouse. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">A child/adolescent who is involved in incest in an incestuous families live in an ongoing state of psychological stress. These set of children are always very sad and helpless. Troubled by the memories of the past abuse, the fear of the future abuse, the fears that accompany the abuses e.g pregnancy and the pressure of keeping the sexual abuses secret. A good observer will notice the psychological stress of the sexual abuse on a child/adolescent displayed with the change in behaviour. You will notice a mood change, each time the offender is around that child/adolescent. In incestuous families, the fathers, step fathers, half brothers are always in the position to be the offender. The victims are always the female children. The offenders are always physically stronger than their victims.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Children/adolescents victims in incestuous families are likely to have assumed a role as a parentlike figure to other family members, the process known in psychological terms as parentification. Such victims are usually the oldest daughters in the family. The "little mother" of the house may submit to sexual abuses by the offender for various reasons. </span><span style="color: blue;">Firstly, to protect her younger ones from being molested by the same offender. Secondly, sensing the mother's weakness, she is protecting her mother from getting hurt by her father or step father. Some daughters may even think that it is their responsibility when sex is requested of them. Victims of sexual assaults grow up without a sense of protection and security. All children needs love, care, security and trust. The first people they interact with, when they arrive this world, are their parents. Children/adolescents needs their parent or guidiance to build their inner strength. In incestuous families, for children/adolescents in adult-child/adolescent incest, trust is totally destroyed. As such children grow, they may be handicapped in their ability to establish trusting relationships with others. A father in an incestuous family teaches the daughter victim that it is not safe to trust, not even herself.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, can you imagine a child/adolescent with multiple offenders? such child/adolescent must be going through hell.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> When child/adolescent is neglected by all the the adults in her life, and the only seemingly caring adult around is the offender, taking advantage of her. she might interprete being taken advantage of as love. In this case, the victim might fall inlove with the offender, but it is still wrong no matter which way you are looking at it from. Even after the abuse becomes public, the child/adolescent may defend and continue to idealize the offender. The emotional dependency on the offender may blind the child/adolescent to the harm caused by the abuse.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Sexually abused children generally, are secretive when it comes to the sexual abuse they are experiencing, because of the fear of being misunderstood, blamed, punished, disgraced. All children view themselves as the centre of all their pre-matured sexual experiences. It is quite difficult for the child to realise that the abuse has very little to do with her, that it is a symptom of a sickness no one discovered in the offender. The abused child needs help, likewise the offender.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The child's nearby relative can be her offender also. A relative according to the defination is a person who is in any form related to a particular family. So, a child/adolescent's offender can be a close relative in the person of her uncle, cousin, family friend, grandfather etc The most common of relative incest is a cousin-cousin incest. My concentration here still maintain on the offender-victim incest. The victims are the weak, helpless female child and the offenders, the strong male molester. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In this setting of relative incest, the victims are always living very close with the offender. They could both reside in the same house temporarily, as in the case of a visiting cousin or niece or grand daughter. In most cases, the poor girl can be lured into sex by blackmail, being over-powered, drugged or use of aphrodisiacs.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The relative could be the guidiance, the child/adolescent could even depend heavily on the offender for survival, the incest in this case is likely to last longer than any kind of incest because in such situation, little or no attention is always given to the girl child. On disclosure, in an african setting, the victim always suffers the more, probably by the offender's nuclear family e.g the offender's wife, if married. In the real sense, the adults that are suppose to take care of these children/adolescents are the very ones violating them.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the case of a family friends as the offender, they always like to befriend the poor girl and create a form of familiarity between the victims and themselves by buying the victims with gifts. Infact, most relative offenders are child groomers.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">There are many variations in family incest pattern. They often involve families being socially isolated. Family influences may contribute to incest, but the offender's behaviour is the abuse. The offender is the sole person responsoble for the abuse. Most children/adolescent always put the blame on themselves. A violated girl child do not speak out because she is scared of being blamed and does not think anyone will believe her own part if the story. And another problem to her is, who is she going to disclosure the incest to? Because mothers in incestuous families are always weak (emotionally or physically).</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"><b><i><u>INCESTUOUS FAMILIES; </u></i></b>Incestuous famiy here, am referring to incestuous nuclear families. Families</span> <span style="color: blue;">in which incest occur tends to be close inwardly, such families lack in real emotional connection to people outside the family. Incestuous families are are not as stable internally as it might be observed from the outside. The parents are always not in good terms when it come to emotional intimacy, even if there is an active sex life between them. Among the other members of such families, the emotional connection is lacking as well. One or both of the parents were usually sexually abused as children. In this article, i will be focusing on the most common family incest i.e Father-daughter incest. Because it involves the violation of a minor. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">In incestuous family settings, the fathers are always the offenders, the mothers, non- offenders, and the daughter, the victim.In Japan, the mother-son incest is quite common, but here in Africa, in Nigeria precisely, father-daughter is more common. So, i am focusing on father-daughter incest. I want use the following sections to analyse the role of a mother, a father and a victim daughter in a typical incestuous family. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">A typical mother in an incestuous family exhibits some form of weakness capacity. Her work might be taking much of the time she is suppose to spend with her family or she might as well be a lazy full house wife. there is always one form of weakness. She might be chronically ill, depressed, economically dependent and/or socally isolated. She could be the a victim of a sexual abuse herself, when she was a child/adolescent. In most cases, the mothers in an incestuous family are not responsive to their children's needs.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> A Mother might be in a destructive relationship with the father, the marriage may look perfect to outsiders because such family are very secretive.But internally, the marriage is always unsatisfying, limited in communication and lacking in emotional intimacy. Lacking in emotional intimacy with the children too.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In incestuous family, you will discovered that alot of adult responsibilities are delegated to the female children in that family, most especially, the oldest daughters. Delegation of adult responsibilities to female children could be delibrate or unintentional. Unintentional in the sense that the mother is very sick, divorced, etc. For example, i have come across a family in which the oldest daughter was the one taking care of her younger ones, did the cooking, serve the father, taking up most of the responsibilities in the house, while the mother sits lazily around doing nothing. And come to think of it, she is barely 13years. The mother in some cases might even depend on the daughter for emotional support. Sadly, the mothers in incestuous normally lack the ability and skills to demonstrate unconditional love. They may be unable to set aside their own responsive neediness in order to respond with empathy to their child's daily experience. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Most mother's in an incestuous family are not always aware that sexual abuse was going on in her family. She may have sensed that something was not right without having allowed herself to think that it could be an incest. She may even doubt her own perception of the abuse and thus, may have convinced herself that she was earlier crazy or she is imagining too far in her mind. Often, daughters do not tell their mothers about the sexual abuse going on because they can sense their mother's weakness and might wants to protect her from any further pain and hardship she is going through. Daughters may also fear the loss of the family and take literally, such threats as "It will kill your mom if she finds out about this".</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> How do mothers respond to the disclosure of incest involving her daughter? Here, am referring to incest in a typical nuclear families, the Father-daughter incest. The responsiveness of mothers upon disclosure differs greatly from each other. And also depend on the situation of the mother. In a situation, in which the mother do not depend on the man {father} for basic and necessary needs and is not intimidated by him, then the level of responsiveness is likely to be positive because she can comfortably confront her husband and take the necessary steps in stopping the sexual abuse. Now, in a situation in which the mother is timid, totally depends on the man, financially, emotionally and scared of lossing the marriage, then she will be caught in an atmosphere of confusion. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Mothers often feel immobilize at the time of disclosure. A woman may fear the disclosure means she must make a choice between her baby girl and her husband. Two people towards whom she feels loved and loyalty. One woman asked "Should i cut off my right arm or my left?". While few women respond to their daughter's disclosure in a supportive manner, many frequently have a very hard time believing that incest has occurred. Some mothers totally disregard the disclosure and forget it was even mentioned.. This amnesia-like response leaves the victim feeling ignored and violated. A woman believing that her husband or partner has abused her girl child or other children not hers can be forced in making choices and take actions. A woman who has already decided to end her relationship {either divorce or temporary seperation} is likely to believe her gir child and take action because she has less to lose. The woman who wants to remain in the relationship or who atleast has mixed feelings- which is the most common response, has the hardest time.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, when a woman fully accept the possibility that incest has occurred between her partner or husband and her lovely girl child/adolescent, alot of thoughts will seems to stream through her mind. And she will always go through some or all of the following feelings:</span><br />
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<li><span style="color: orange;">She feels guilty that she has failed to protect her child and that she fails to satisfy her husband. She thinks it may be her fault that the incest has occurred. </span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #38761d;">She repulsed by him, keeps thinking about him touching and fondling her girl child and trying to get the thoughts out of her mind. How could he do it? </span></li>
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<span style="color: blue;"><u style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">DEFINITION:</u> A</span><span style="color: blue;">ccording to wikipedia, incest is defined as follows: " Incest is sexual activity between family members or close relatives. This typically includes sexual activity between people in consanguineous relationship and sometimes, those related by affinity such as individuals of same househood, step relatives, those related by adoption or marriage, or members of the same clan or lineage". The word is derived from latin word "INCESTUS" {IN +CESTUS}. CESTUS means chaste, otherword, INCESTUS means unchaste, impure, profane. There are different ways in which incest take place in a family settings or between relatives.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I am going to be giving type of incest based on the assent between the two people involved the incest.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><u style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Consentaneous incest:</u> This is the type of incest in which two people, members of a particular family or relatives willingly engage in sexual activities. In this type of incest, both party consent to it. They could be two teens, One adult and a teen, and two adults. One of them could be seduced, but not forced into having sex with the other person. Consentaneous incests are always secretive. the following are examples of consentaneous incest;</span><br />
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<li><span style="color: blue;">Matured siblings</span></li>
<li><span style="color: blue;">Mother- son</span></li>
<li><span style="color: blue;">Uncle- matured niece</span></li>
<li><span style="color: blue;">Step father-matured step</span><span style="color: blue;"> daughter</span> </li>
<li><span style="color: blue;">Between cousins</span></li>
<li><span style="color: blue;">Between In-laws</span></li>
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<span style="color: blue;">Infact any two family members or relatives who have agreed to take part in sexual activities together.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> </span><u style="color: blue; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Dissentaneous incest:</u><span style="color: blue;"> This is the type of incest i will be concentrating on, in my subsequent articles about incest. This is a type of incest in which atleast one of the people involved do not consent or unwillingly give in to the sexual activity going on between them. Now, in the case of incest involving an adult and a chilld or unwilling adolescent, then it is called child/adolescent molestation, or simply, child molestation, because it is utterly impossible for a child whose body is not ready for sexual activity to give consent to a violating adult. And in most countries, such act is against the law. The perpetrator of such act is known as the offender and the other person at the receiving end is dub the victim. Since the victim will never agree to the ply of the offender, then the offender will device a means of luring and having sexual activities with the victim, which i will be explaining later in subsequent incest articles. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The victim could be an adult, adolescent, or even a child as young as three years old. Some of the method deviced by offenders in other to lure their victims into having sex with them is as follows: </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Like i said previously, i will be concentrating on child/adolescent molestion. I love the definition from the book <i>INCEST AND SEXUALITY, Quoted as follow: " We define incest as any sexual contact between a child or adolescent and a person who is closely related or perceived to be related including step parents, and live-in partners of parents." I will</i> adopt this definition for the reason of my writing i.e incest involving the molestation of a female child. Most of the report that i had to opportunities to come across, majority of the victims are female children/ adolescents. The offenders are always older and physically stronger males for example, The fathers, step fathers, uncles, cousins, step siblings, male in-laws, even grand fathers and male family friends.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Incest occurs in so many families nowadays, pedophiles are everywhere, any child is vulnerable, both the male and the female child, though, the female child is badly affected. Engaging a child in sexual activities is like taking away a child from his or her childhood. psychologiclly and physically, a child's body is not prepared for any sexual activities. No child/adolescent will ever willingly give consent give consent to being molested by a selfish adult, especially, the female child, because for the female child/adolescent, sexual activities that involves genital penetration becomes excruciatingly painful. And apart from the pain, it is also accompanies with it, post-traumatic stress disorder, sustaining of injuries, being infected with diseases, unwanted pregnancy, low self esteem etc. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Incest cases, a molested female child may wish to disclose this incestuous event that she is experiencing but the fear of being seen as awkward, blamed, and rejected. Especially, when the first person she confided in did not believe in her or showed any positive response in stopping the offender from carry out his dubious act, then the child/adolescent will accept her faith. The child's suffering counld last for as long possible, especially, if the child depend solely on the offender. Effective response is what the child needs. There are situations in which the mother is aware of the girl child being molested but still keeps it a secret or even covers it up to avoid the family from splittng up.The situation can be complicated for the mothers involved, especially, when they are directly dependent on the offender {mostly fathers or step fathers}.But think about child/adolescent who is suffering physically, emotionall and psychologically. Think about what they will become in the future. Such mother is destroying the life of a child she ought to be nurturing, especially when the offender is unrepentant. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Please join hand with me, together, we can protect these beautiful, adorable, innocent young ones from being violated. There are many monsters {pedophiles} around these days. If YOU, i mean you reading this article right now, comes across any incident of a child/adolescent being sexually abused, please take a positive action to make sure that the abuse is stopped. Let us rise against this menace that is demoralizing our society. Both the offender and the victim need help. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Abuse means being perverted, wrongly used of something. Abuse can be in various ways. there are sexual abuse, psychological abuse, drug abuse, anything at all that is given to be misused. Here, i will be discussing sexual abuse because it is becoming a problem in this modern world of ours. Hardly, do you read or listen to the news daily, without a report reaching you about a child/adolescent being violated sexually. It is happening at an alarming rate nowjadays. The female child is always most affected. Am not saying that male children are not molested too but the female children are most affected psychologically and the emotional stress that accompanies female child molestion. Majority of child/adolescent sexual abusive cases are always left unreported. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Our culture does not help matter in this issue at all. A culture that sees the inequality between the male and female child will continue to experience this problem that is eating deep into our society at an alarming rate. During the developmental years, male and female children/adolescent are taught stereotyped sex roles that set the stage for how sexual activity should take place. Males are often taught that being unfeeling, uncommunicative and sexually demanding is part of being masculine. Sexual activities becomes an opportunity to gain peer status and show conquering abilities rather than to related meaningfully to another person. A Female child, culturally socialise to seek approval from others by being passive, adaptive and physically attractive. They are taught to downplay their intelligence and assertiveness for fear of being seen as unfeminine. Thus, girls learn to exploit themselves sexually toward a nonsensual goal. Little cultural recognition is given to the healthy expression of female sexual feeling, instead, sexual directiveness in young women is considered abnormal. It appears that the society has been grooming boys to be sexually exploitive, and girls to be sexually victimized.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I am using this opportunity to call on parents. Parents ought to be vigilant especially when it comes to being protective of their female children who seems to be more vulnerable than their male counterpart. Parents need to inculcate into their children sexual relating matters. Sex should be taught and portrayed in a different way. It would be very helpful to the society if we begin teaching sexual relating issues as serious activity that can be approached with personal integrity, a willingness to assume responsibility. If sexual lessons are to be undertaken responsibly, with accurate information and healthy sex role models, negative repercussions could reduced.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In today's world, molestation is becoming a very big problem. Children are being engaged in a wrong type of relationship which leaves a deep ingrained effect on these young ones. It could even last a lifetime effect. Please do not think that it is none of your business, because as a parent, you might not know if your beloved kid is being violated by a close related adult, an offender. The offender of a female child could be a cousin, an uncle, an father, step father, next door neighbour, family male friend, grand father, neighbours, any adult male etc.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In subsequent articles, i will be concentrating more on the female children because they are more vulnerable and when sexual abused always have longer lasting emotional effect on the female child compared to a male child. The male children/adolescents are also molested on a daily basis but for a female child/adolescent, it is always accompanied with excruciating pain, traumatic stress, infections, emotional breakdown, teen's pregnancy etc.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Sexual abuse has finally been recognised as a major problem in the society. Public awareness and education about childhood/teendom sexual abuse must be one of the primary goal of a sane society.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Incest is the most common form of sexual abuse. Incest between an adult and a person under the age of consent is considered a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme foms of childhood abuse. It often results in serious and long term psychological trauma, especially in the case of parental incest.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I call upon mothers to be vigilant and to pay close attention to their children, most especially the female children, becoming close to them, opening a channel of communication between you and your female child is very important. Gone are those days when parents shy away from sexually related topics with their children. sex topic ought to be inculcated in the minds of this little ones. teach them how to react when someone plays with them sexually. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Many benefits can be derived from addressing the relationship between incest and sexuality. As a society, we can become more informed about the real damage that occurs. Our motivation to combat child sexual abuse can be strengthened. Parents can recognise signs of abuse earlier and more outspoken role in protecting their children. Sexual offenders can be directly challenged without intimidation. An incest that is a sexual abuse can go on for quite a long time undetected. In such instance, you can imagine the pain and traumatic stress this victim children experiences every single day as this incestuous activity keeps on occuring on a regular basis. She might not be your child, she could be the girl next door, Your friend's daughter etc. Join me to save these children/adolescents today. Let heal the world and make it a better place.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the next article i will giving you the full details about incest; Defination and type of incest.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">Plants are magnificent creatures, apart from human beings and animals. Plants are the other physical living things that exist on this Gross material world. Plants have already been here on earth before the emergence of animals, and the arrival of man. Plants here, am including the green plants, fungi, red and brown algea. Every other form of life on earth are dependent on these creatures directly or indirectly.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Plants are creatures that are so common that we always underestimate their values in our lives. the truth is that we cannot do without these lovely, beautiful creatures. The order of this physical world make us rely heavily on plants. The physical body of man is part of mature, so it is of no different from that of all other developed animals like apes when it comes its physical needs. So you have no choice but depend on plants whether you like it or not.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Plants were here on earth even before the emergence of animals and man being the late comer to these earth is been mandated to take control and subdue both the plant and animals. Plants are living things just like man and animals, its amazing to realise that the feed, breathe, grows, reproduces in their own ways and so on. But in all, they are meant for the survival of man and animals. I am using the phrase man and animals in the sense that man is of a different origin from animals. The former is from the Spiritual realm of Creation while the later is from the Animistic ring of Creation. But in reality on this Gross material World, the physical body of man is not different from those of animals in the sense that they both issued from this Gross material World. Everything in this Material world is in cycle, which applies to life on earth too. Everything in this Gross Material world is meant to be born, undergo some form development, grow old and be born again in a grand version. Our dear Earth, being a part of this Gross Material world is susceptible to this cycle of change too. There was a time this Earth was formed, it is in its certain stage of development and it will grow old and die (disintegrate). the same applies to man, animal and plants on Earth. That is why we are mortals. Our physical body is a mere flesh, that will be left behind.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, the question is, if Man originates from the Spiritual, the animals from the Animistic, where do plants originates from? Hmmmm good question, exactly how someone asked me on whatsapp. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Unlike Man and animals, plants do not have souls, but they are found in almost all the planes, realms in Creation. They serve different purposes in different planes in Creation. I would have loved to write about one of the purpose of plants in the Ethereal world but i do not intend to bore you with much story in this article. I want to limit my writing of this purposes to the physical world alone.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Plants are magnificent creatures that their great importance are always underestimated in our lives. Yet, we can hardly do without them. The truth is that plants are there in order for us to survive on Earth. They are there for the purpose of Man and animals directly or indirectly. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Permit me to write a little about some of the the importance of plants to Man. They are as follows:</span><br />
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<i><span style="color: red;"> Man derives his food from plants. All the food that man consume are directly or indirectly dependable on plants. Plants comtains all the nutrients that the physical bodies of man and animal needs in order to live a healthy and balance life on Earth. Different plant's species have been used by man as food and more are yet to be discovered. </span></i><br />
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<span style="color: red;"><i> Plants are very important in this aspect that without the plants, the earth would have become very hot to live. They also help in regulating air componenent by absorbing carbondioxide and using it for its own metabolism and by end product, oxygen which man and animals need in order to survive. Most of the oxygen gas molecules present in the air, consumed by both man and animals are produced by plants. Trees can absorb odors and pollutant gases through their bark. It is a pity that man who is mandated to dominate and subdue creation is the one interfering with the order of nature by cutting down trees without planting any replacement , by doing so, man causes a great disturbance to mother nature. </i></span><i style="color: red;">Please think twice before bringing down that trees.</i><br />
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<span style="color: red;"><i> Plants can also serve as medicine when the physical body of both man and animals are in a bad state of health, the plants will still come to the rescue. Drugs are derived directly or indirectly from plants. There are those that are gifted with the ability to choose herbs for any kind of illness. That weed, flowers, tree bark, grasses that you always ignore on a daily bases could be medicinal, you never can tell. </i></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The three importance of plants listed above are inevitable for the survival of man and animals on earth. Although, there are numerous importance that are even beyond the knowledge of man. When it comes to beautification, plants are there. Shelter and habitat; they are there. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Like every other parts of nature, plants are taken care of by animistic beings put in charge of nature and its elements.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">In the last article, you were made to understand that there is but one God, but one power, The Father of All! What then is Trinity? God the Father, God the Son and the Holy Spirit! Have you ever pondered about this conception before? How can there be One God and at the same time THREE IN ONE? Humanly, it is impossible right? So find a place and relax, as i take you closer to the truth in the next paragraghs of this article.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> When mankind shut themselves out of paradise by not heeding the guidance of the intuitive perception any longer, which is spiritual and therefore, near to God, but freely choose to cultivate the intellect, subjecting themselves to it and thus becoming slaves of the tool given them to use, they naturally further and further away from God. The cleavage occurred when humanity gave preference to worldly matters, which are unconditionally bounded to space and time.This is alien to the nature of God and therefore makes it impossible to comprehend HIM.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The gulf became wider with each generation, and men chained themselves more and more exclusively to this earth. They became earthbound intellectually. As man becomes more more materialistic everyday, he firmly bound himself to space and time, it was naturally that their horizon simultaneously became narrowed. Man could no longer understand the spiritual things any more. Even the religious leaders of those days could not recognise the Divine message brought by Jesus to humanity, because they were highly materialistic. And today, it is even worse. So, be careful,</span><span style="color: blue;"> who you imitate!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man became so materialistic and subjected himself to the rule of the intellect, that he could no longer perceive anything spiritual any more. Even the Prophets sent by God were not heeded to any more.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The question is, how can man find the connection with the Spiritual again? With his Creator again? It was utterly impossible unless help comes from HIM alone.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> God in His Purity could no longer reveal HIMSELF to the debased intellectual human beings, because they were no longer capable of sensing, seeing or hearing His Messengers again.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> For this reason, God in His Love, through an Act of His Will, severed a Part of HIMSELF and incarnated it in flesh and blood, in a physical body of a male sex- Jesus of Nazareth, Who thus became the incarnate Word, the incarnate Love of God, the Son of God.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, prior to the coming of our Lord Jesus, there had been the FATHER and the Holy Spirit. Creation had to come into existence through the Creative Will of God the FATHER! As such the Creative Will of God the FATHER is the HOLY SPIRIT, Who is personal in His creating and yet stands or remains completely in the FATHER and the FATHER is within Him as He creates. Everything in Creation is created by the Creative Will of God. The HOLY SPIRIT is also a Son of God, because He is a Part of the FATHER also.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Just as the Creative Will of God is personal, so also the Love of God became personal in activity in Jesus. Both being a Parts of the FATHER are one with Him, and the FATHER is within them.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Let me use this opportunity to explain the term "Son". I was chatting with my beloved friend, a muslim, then i told him that Jesus is the Son of God! Then he asked a very important question, i quote: "Who is the Divine mother of Jesus, if the Father is God? That is the problem, man always think of the term "Son" in the human way, like a son in a human family.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> For the Divine "Son" mean a "Part" of the FATHER that works specially by ITSELF. Son and FATHER are completely one and can never be seperated! Therefore, never in any case think about the Divine Son according to the human way, for that would be certain to give an absolutely false picture. It would lead you to errors in conception that would completely eliminate the actual facts and would consequently never let you come nearer to the truth!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Perhaps, one should rather say: It is only God the FATHER, HE works threefold as one! Whatever God the Son works, that He works out of the FATHER, in the FATHER, for the FATHER! He would be nothing without the FATHER; For He is Part of the FATHER and the FATHER Himself is within Him and works in Him. The FATHER does not perchance work out of the Son, thus, not through Him, but in Him! Herein lies the mystery for the human conception because it cannot be described in earthly words.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the human family, the son is by himself and the father is by himself, they are and remain two. At the utmost, they can become united in their working, but never one! It is different with the expression God the Son! Just the opposite! God the FATHER and God the Son are one and can only be considered as two in their working, as also the two Sons of God, Jesus and the HOLY SPIRIT are one with the FATHER only in their working two. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Both Sons of God remains closely connected with the FATHER and one with HIM. As Jesus is of the FATHER, so also is the HOLY SPIRIT. Both are Parts of Him. They are like the arms of a human body which can act independently, but still belong to the body, if they are to be complete. Yet they can only carry out independent actions as parts of the whole.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Such is God in His omnipotence and wisdom! At His right hand as part of Himself, is God the Son, Love and His left is God the "HOLY SPIRIT", Justice. They have both emanated from God the FATHER and belong to Him in unity. This is the Trinity of the one God.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Before Creation came into existence, God was one! During the process of creating, He severed a part of His WILL to work independently in Creation and thus, became two fold. When later it became necessary to provide a mediator for erring mankind, because the purity of God did not permit a direct connection to self-enchained humanity, out of His love, He severed a part of Himself to act as a temporary bridge in order to make Himself once more understood. Thus, with the birth of Christ, God became a Trinity.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> If you really want to learn more about God the FATHER, learn from His incarnate Word! The message that He brought this earth and the Prophets too. Do not be only the hearer of this Messages, but you must also apply them in your daily activities.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">The conception of trinity as always been a topic debated by so many believers. Alot of so called believers cannot comprehend the concept of Trinity. And most never bother to exert themselve in this conception. Some even believe that it is a sin to enquire more about God! Please, my dear esteemed reader, do not believe religiously, anything thrown at you. Let such concept be scrutinise by you and when the spirit within you decline such a conception, then the conception is wrong. There are certain things that you will be told that defiles logic. There are lots of people out there whose aim is to mislead you and make you take the wrong path. Our Lord Jesus warned us about the end time. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> When you do not understand a concept, please always endeavor to ask question and do not believe it religiously! The spirit will always discern the truth from false teachings. In most cases, man do not listen to his spirit! If you are spiritually alert, there are lots of dangers that you can avert yourself from. If you earnestly seek the truth, you will surely find it. Become the KNOWING, become enlightened. If your inner man does not accept anything, do not believe it religiously!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the scripture, it is said that there is one God! Yes that is true. the question is, how does the concept of trinity came about, if there is only ONE GOD? How does ONE GOD becomes God the Father, God the Son and The Holy Spirit?</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In this article, i want to throw a little light on the ONE TRUE GOD and in the next article, i will explain the TRIUNE GOD.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The truth is there is only one God! One LIFE! The I AM! The ALPHA AND OMEGA! Behind HIM there is none! Only ONE GOD! HE shares HIS GLORY WITH NONE! HE alone is the source of ALL LIFE both in the Divine and Creation. No creature can see GOd in HIS unsubstantiated form. In most case, we always picture God to be a white beard male spirit sitting in his throne in heaven. I want to make clear to you that God is not a spiritual being like us. HE is far more greater. HE is neither male nor female. HE is the FATHER OF ALL! Both in the Divine and Creation. Without God there is no EXISTENCE! Everything that Exist, vibrates in this ONE Great FATHER OF ALL! Do not let anyone deceive you, there is only ONE GOD!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Our lord Jesus was very clear on this issue of ONE GOD He said: "The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord thy God is one Lord". This statement is so important that your Existence is dependence on it. Learn from our Lord Jesus, when He prayed, He always direct His prayers to this One true God. He always pray in seclusion and He prayed like a jew. Whatsoever, religion you find yourselve, always direct your worship to the ONE TRUE GOD. You must love your God with all your heart! With all your might! With all your strength! With your life!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man can only kill the physical body, but God can destroy both the physical body, the other bodies and the spirit too. HE alone </span><span style="color: blue;">can erase you out of the BOOK OF LIFE! HE alone must you fear! HE alone must you serve! Your Creator alone deserves your worship, no one else.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> How do you fear and love God with all your heart? The only way to fear your God is by abiding in Him, by keeping the laws that He has put in place, that pulsate throughout Creation. He gave the jews the Ten Commandments for the benefit of humanity. Our Lord Jesus emphasised is teachings based on these laws, He could not have done otherwise. He is the love of God. In the old testament, the Holy Spirit, the Justice of God was in charge. Justice and Love are inseperable. Wherever there is Justice, you will always find love! So Jesus did not come to do away with the Ten Commandments, and other laws given by the Justice of God. I am not talking about the jewish traditions here, only the Laws from God and not ones from Moses.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> If truly you love your God, you will never use the name of God in vain. If you truly you love unconditionally, you will never murder. If you truly love your neighbour, you will never steal from them. If you love your physical body, you will not engage it in a degrading and ignoble physical activities. Love is all you need in order for you to return back to paradise. Love for humanity, love for Creation. "Love is all you need" Be the light of this physical world. Let your light shine before all men!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">The importance of prayer cannot be overemphasised in the life of man. Prayer is so important that, our Lord Jesus had to teach us how to pray. The lord's prayer was not meant to be prayed all at once. Actually, the Lord's prayer is divided into three parts and i will explain each part for you in the nearest future. In your quiet time moment, try as much as possible with an ernest volition, meditates on the Lord's Prayer. It contains the foundation for everything you need for your physical well-being and spiritual ascent. The Lord's Prayer even give much more! It also indicates the path which you should strive to follow during your life existence on earth. The lord's Prayer alone provides everything for you if you penetrate into it deeply and grasp it aright.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man needs nothing more than the Lord's Prayer! It shows him the whole gospel in concentrated form. It is the key to the Luminous Heights for him who knows how to experience it rightly. It can be both staff and torch for the advancement and ascent of everyone! What it contains is absolutely immeasurable! The Lord's Prayer is a masterpiece in itself.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the Lord's Prayer, our Lord Jesus gave humanity the key to the Kingdom of God! It was not meant to be rattled straight off! </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> For now, in this article, i want to talk about a type of prayer. I will give you full detail of the Lord's Prayer later. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Do you know that there are different type of prayers? I want to throw a little light on Prayer for Thanksgiving. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man , ordinarily, never bothers himself to pray a prayer of thanksgiving to his Creator, unless he undergo a discomforted situation. A happy soul will always give gratitude to his God no matter the situation he finds him/herself. There are so many reasons why you must thank God. Firstly, God is your Creator. Every creature in creation and the Divine must humble itself before his God. God is the source of all Life, without the Creator, you fail to exist in creation. God alone is the source of all driving forces. The Mightiness of God is so unimaginable to man. All powers emanate from only one source, that is God. He alone is worthy of all praise. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> There is a popular believe, and majority of humanity holds that believe that there are two type of powers: The good and the evil power. Well let me use this opportunity to explain something here. To clarify this issue, like i said before, there is only one source of all driving force which is God. Lucifer being one of the archangel was handed a responsibility. A responsibility to see to it that the journey of the Spirit-germ wandering through creation and there returning to paradise is made quiet easy. Now, for that purpose, power was allotted to Lucifer. A scepter or a key symbolises the power given to Lucifer. Instead for Lucifer to use the power for the purpose it was meant for, rather, He used it contrary to that same purpose it was meant for. He used this powers to mislead man and thereby making the path to paradise difficult for man.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> The Key or the Scepter will be wrestled off Lucifer by a stronger and more powerful Being at the appointed time. I am not suppose to write about Lucifer in this article, but the point i want to make clear is that there is only one power source, and that is God. Just because Lucifer used the power given to Him for evil, does not mean that the power is evil. At the appointed time, that same power in the hand of the Son of Man, will be used for the benefit of mankind during the millennial period of grace and mercy bestowed upon mankind.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> So i want you to erase that mentality of Good and Evil powers competing each other. If God has a competitor, then He is not God.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> God alone is the only creator, and He is One. One Whole! Every other thing vibrates in Him. Besides Him, there is None! Just take a moment and think about it yourself. God is the originator of All, Lucifer is though, a Divine being, He is still a creature of God Almighty. A creature can never be as powerful as is his Creator. The Creator can exist without Its creature, but a creature cannot exist without its Creator. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> When you give thanks to your Creator, it shows that you appreciate the Greatness of your Mighty God. And its another way of showing that you Love your God with all your heart, no matter what situation you find yourself. Atleast, thank God for your existence in creation. Let your gratitude be known to God in humility and purity.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man seldom offer prayer of thanksgiving, unless exceptionally, when he unexpectedly receives a very special earthly gift or when he is suddenly rescued from a great danger. Unexpectedness and suddenness are necessary before he will arouse himself to utter a prayer of thanksgiving. If he and all his loved ones are always blessed with good health and if he has no material cares, he will hardly bring himself to utter an earnest prayer of thanksgiving.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Prayer of Thanksgiving is a worship to your God. It is so important in the life of a believer! It shows that you love the Lord, your God with all your heart, your soul, and spirit. It shows that you acknowledge the Mightiness of the Most High God. Our lord Jesus gave us an example, when He showed us how to pray, quote: "OUR FATHER, WHICH ART IN HEAVEN, HALLOWED BE THY NAME". He Started the Lord's Prayer with the acknowledgement of the Greatness of God.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> So, I want to direct this question to you! When was the last time you genuinely and earnestly gave thanks to God? or are you waiting for something spectacular to happen before you know that the life you live is not yours without your Creator! You need to thank Him for the Love and Mercy He has showed. Thank Him for your existence here on earth.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13521336965090443590noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3253013999407050722.post-45000204672007488242016-02-10T14:55:00.000+01:002016-02-14T17:46:45.792+01:00GIFTED<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: blue;">"Gifted" is what every human being is endowed with. Your gift always manifest itself in what thing you are very passionate about. It could be a profession, an artistic or inartistic activities. It could be that your passion is to render services, or trading of commodities. As a human being, you have been endowed with a gift, with which you will be able to establish yourself here on this Gross Material World. Now, it is your duty to discover for yourself what you are gifted with. It is possible for one person to be gifted in many ways. So, should i say "discover your gifts"?</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Just like i said in one of my previous article, that you need to look inwardly, and allow the real you to take over.The Spirit is the real you, this your physical body that you can touch is just a tool with which to interact in this physical world. Immediately the intellect is subdued, the Spirit takes control. The Spirit man knows what it wants, He knows the direction to take. Your Spirit man will tell you what to do, then a passion will arises within you. It could be to solve a problem that has been bothering your fellow man on earth. The passion will always be for the benefit of humanity as a whole. Put your passion into a physical activities, and be consistent and persistent in such an activity. use your intellect in your daily activities and not the intellect controlling you. If you develop in you a passion, and you discover that when it is put into a physical activities, people will get hurt, Please, i beg you, refrain from such activities, it is not of benefit to humanity, such passions are not from from the Spirit. That is your intellect influenced by darkness.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> For some, their gift can be exhibited without training and developing it. while others might need to nurture and develop your gift. But firstly, you must be passionate about that thing you want to nurture and develop. Your gift will always open doors for you and it can also become a means to an end. Do not follow what is trending, Just because some made it there, does not mean everyone should follow in that direction, thereby leaving behind your own inward urge towards your own direction. You are suppose to experience this physical world your own way. Not like someone else. your experiencing is unique and beneficial to you and you alone. You must not try to be like others but yourself. If your passion is farming, trust me, you will be sucessful in that area if you are determine. afterall, there are farmers that are more successful than some doctors. being successful is not all about money.</span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Nowadays, majority of humanity has allowed their intellect to take the front lead. Thereby, not giving the Spirit man the free will to operates. Majority of man today, slumbers spiritually. Whatever gift you possess, create a value for it. You could also be endowed with virtuous gifts such Leadership, being courageous etc. In most cases, virtuous giftd can be developed by individuals. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;"> Parents please do not impose any profession contrary to the will of your child. Let the Spirit man in them finds its way through its existence here on earth.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, there are individuals with special gifts. This chosen individuals have the abilities to do things that others, ordinarily, cannot do. This individuals have been specially gifted for the benefit of humanity. For one individual, it could be the gift of clairvoyance. For another, the gift of healing. Another, telepathy. Yet another, prophesy and many more, like premonition, dream interpretation, extreme courageousness etc. Some are endowed with special gifts but are not aware of it. These individuals with special gifts are few and scattered all over every race, religion, regions etc. They are specially gifted, but they are human beings like any other human being, so they are not to be adored nor worshipped. They are nowhere near the Messengers that were sent by the Creator. these Messengers are the prophets. Examples are Lord Jesus Christ, Gautama Budda {born as Prince siddhartha}, Zoroaster and the last but not the least of all the Messengers is Prophet Mohammed{SAW}. The Prophets came with messages that can liberate humanity from darkness to the luminous light, your Spiritual home, if only you can yield yourself to their teaching and the messages that they came with. I do not intend writing about the Messengers in this article.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Just because these few individuals are endowed with a special gift, people always expect them to place these gifts at their disposal free of cost. These specially gifted persons however, should themselves first learn to master this gift, then set a value on these gifts, so that they do not continually cast pearls before swine!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Everyone is gifted! Each and every person is endowed with a gift or two. Be it an intellectual, virtuous or a special gift. Your gift will uplift you spiritually, when you use it to the benefit of humanity. Let the Will of God prevail in your life, then your gift will find its way to become recognised. Just look deep inside of you, there is a unique gift deposited inside you. Look deep and discover for yourself what you are gifted with. "A man's gift maketh room for him and bringeth him before great men{Proverb 18:16}.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Majority are intellectually gifted, only few are specially gifted. Let people'life be touch with your gift, even if they are to pay for such services. </span></div>
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<span style="color: blue;">Your thoughts! In your leisure, when you have loose grip of the outer hold on life, what do you always think about? Whay are your dominant thoughts? When you are quiet and alone, what do you nomally catch yourself thinking about? You will be amaze at what you will discover when you study your thought pattern. Look around you, i wish you can gain access to the thoughts of people around you, you will realise how inferior the thinking of man is. The words that man utters show their thought pattern, even their actions tell alot about their kind of thinking too. I am directing this question to you reading this article right now, "What dominates your thinking most of the time"? Does your thinking add beauty to this beautiful world of Gross material or it turns it into a ugly place?</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the spiritual world, thoughts are deeds i.e if you had a thought, the deeds had been done already too. thought is same as deed over there because of the proximity of that sphere to God. You cannot say the same of this Gross material world because of its proximity to God and it is denser. In this Gross material world, when the spirit wills, it will take the physical body sometimes to express it into a physical activities. The truth is, many are controlled by the intellect and not the spirit. THE SPIRIT IS WILLING BUT THE PHYSICAL BODY IS WEAK! Remember, in my past article, i talked about the spirit being the life force of every human being on earth. It is the spirit that you have to let take over in the course of your existence on earth. Know who you are, and you will realise that you more powerful than you can imagine. Know that you are a spiritual being and must be in charge of creation, you have dominion. It is sad that man has allowed the intellect to become master over their life on earth. Instead of using the intellect as a tool that it was meant to be. The intellect has become so powerful that anything spiritual has become strange to man.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> If you will observe friends, relatives, neighbours very closely, you will sense with disgust the emptiness of their thoughts and narrow sphere of their interests, as well as their terrible superficiality. By your "thoughts", i mean your volitions, decisions, will, desires, choices etc.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Your thoughts are very importance in this World of Gross matter and the ethereal world than you can ever imagine. Your thoughts are very influencial in this physical world that you live. Your thoughts can bring peace and harmony to this world or they could bring tumoil, depending what you want to use your thoughts for. The truth is, very few people, in their leisure, whose words and thoughts are penetrated by a longing for a greater development of their souls. They always appear as a solitary strangers in the midst of majority's thinking that is so debased. Envy, hate, evil thoughts dominates the thoughts of man today. You will be filled with sadness to realise that many people are not very much different from animals with their pattern of thinking. They go through life on earth as if with blinkers, never seeing more than one aspect i.e what is purely material. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Life on earth with its pleasures and joy, only get its real meaning when one has become more or less familiar with the Ethereal World and know about the law of reciprocal action connecting us to the Ethereal World, for then one no longer has the feeling of being at the mercy of chance. God does not directly interfer into the affairs of man, God has put in place laws in creation, that every living creatures must abide by this laws. The law of reciprocal action is one of the primordial laws pulsating through the entire creation. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The law of reciprocal action is a primordial law which is adamant and inexorable in its activities, it never fails in its activities not for once. Just like the law of gravity which is a primordial law too. Mind you, law of gravity does not only hold in this Gross Material World alone, but it also pulsate through the Ethereal World and even to the Spiritual World, the same with the law of reciprocal action. Remember, the primordial laws are all forces, forces that man can never know how it came into existence. But nevertheless, man must feel the effect of these laws whether he likes it or not. Man on earth can never comprehend the full activities of each of these laws. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Law of reciprocal action in this physical world can be expressed as follows: "Whatsoever a man sows, that shall he reap". Some call it "Karma". Still yet, some call it "What goes around, comes around". Which ever you may wish to express this law does not really matter, the main thing is to strive to understand the workings of this law. Understanding this law alone, can bring you happiness and joy immeasurable. But when man goes against this law, he must inevitably bear the consequence of his own doing. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Life on earth only gets real value through striving upward and then a delightful, vital warmth also pulsates through all earthly joy and pleasure. Those who yearn for and earnestly seek what is pure and high will as a beautiful result of reciprocal action, attain an ardent love of life, often ending in jubilant enthusiasm for all that exists and is proffered.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Nothing is dead! Nothing is void as it would appear! Everything is working and weaving in reciprocal action, in the centre of which you stand, as man continually forming and directing the threads, being both the starting point and the final goal. Mighty rulers are you! Each one of you is establishing hid own own kingdom in such a way that it will either uplift you or bury you beneath its ruin. Use the power given to you in the full knowledge of this mighty happening, lest in your ignorance or even in your indolence, you bring forth only harmful deformities which choke all that is healthy and good and finally cause you as their author another to totter and fall. The closest ethereal sorrounding can contribute much to uplift or debase him. This closest Ethereal region which is close to this Gross Material World is the region where thoughts-forms are redefined.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Lets take the thought-forms produced by man as a threads. All threads produced by man penetrates this World of Gross Material and further up into the Ethereal World, like a gigantic network of veins or nerve-strands, all is intertwined and interwoven, untearable and inseperable. Every thought thought is generated, like everything in the Ethereal World, immediately takes a form which embodies and expresses the essential meaning of that thought. This forms are something real, something living. Now, as threads which you produce penetrates through the Ethereal World, it takes form and in accordance with the law of Attraction of homogeneous species, the thread is attracted to what is homogeneous in this world of thoght-forms or as attracted by them, depending on the strength it possesses.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Just as a thought when it arises is simultaneously perceived intuitively, with greater or lesser intensity, so its Ethereal form will bear an equivalent life. The World of thoughts is densely populated. Through the mutual power of attraction, complete centres have been formed which by means of their accumulated energy, exercise a great influence upon human beings. Each person is influenced by the similar nature in which s/he tends toward to. If your volitions are evil, you are bound to be influenced by darkness. such persons will also be attracted to people of similar nature within themselves. You will be strengthened in your corresponding will, and encouraged to produced new and similar forms which working in the same manner, enter the World of thought-forms. As long as the propensity to do evil still lingers within you, you can be bothered by this influences and gradually attract to you what is unfavorable to you. Those protected are those who possess other tendencies in greater strength, making a connect with what is dissimilar impossible. Always allow yourself to be influence Light.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> But its a pity, man has brought darkness upon himself. It is unfortunate that man only allow negative thoughts to dominates his thinking. Hate, envy, jealousy, lustfulness, avarice and all other evil thoughts which through their greater numbers of adherents, form the strongest power centres in the world of thought-forms. Far less great are those of purity and love! Man alone brought darkness upon himself. Man himself caused evil to spread with such uncanny rapidity. These dark power centres of thought-forms in turn obtain a connection with analogous spheres of darkness, from there they are specially roused to ever greater activities, so that as a consequence they are able to create downright devastation among mankind. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">I wish to share this quote with you guys, especially to those passing through hard time;</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;">"<i>I ask God for strenght, that i might achieve</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I was made weak, that i might humbly obey...</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I asked for health, that i might do greater things. </i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I was given infirmity, that i might do better things...</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I asked for riches, that i might be happy. </i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I was given poverty, that i might be wise... </i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I asked for power that i might have the praise of men. </i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I was given weakness, that i might feel the need of God...</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I asked for all things that i might enjoy life. </i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I was given life that i might enjoy all things...</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>I got nogthing i asked for, but everything i had hoped for.</i></span></span><br />
<span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: cyan;"><i>Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered. I, among all men, am most blessed!" :-</i><b><span style="color: magenta;">ANONYMOUS.</span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Life only give to you what you need and rightly deserve and not what you want. sometimes, your wants might concur with your needs. If you are passing through a hard time now, you might think life is unfair. But the truth is, you need this present moment, this experiencing your passing through to develop yourself inwardly, to become a stronger human spirit. this is the time the spirit is quicken. Here, am referring to situations or circumstances in which you absolutely have no control over. Do not worry, it is well. Now feel the experiencing, become a better person from this experiencing. Fill your heart with love for all. This is the time when your heartfelt prayer is most effective. So confort yourself in prayer and worship your Creator. Put on good thoughts and this cup shall surely pass you by. I repeat, fill your heart with love for all at all time. That way, you can redeem yourself from your numerous guilts. Be strong, and be courageous, you will not be exposed to situations that you would not be able to bear. Compose yourself, you are stronger than you could ever imagine. Take care of yourself.</span> <br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Earthly possession refers to the material properties acquired, during your existence here on this Gross material world. Many believe that living in penury equates to living in humility, that a true believer should not acquire much or any possession for himself or herself here on earth. Listen! Living in penury does not make you holier nor does it draws you closer to your Creator. Should you find yourself in a tradition which sees the acquisition of earthly possession as a sin? Then you have to break yourself free from such erroneous believe.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> God in His love and infinite mercy for His creatures in creation, has provided for every creature, what it needs for its existence in creation. So, as it is in the primordial creation, so it is in this subsequent creation that we find ourselves right now. So on your earthly existence, everything that you will ever needed, has been provided for you by your Creator. You are a part of this physical world, so you will live your life on earth the way the inhabitant of this world lives. You will eat, play, associates with your fellow sojourners on earth in form of families, friends, neighbours, relatives, animals. In addition to you having the right to inhabit this earth, whatever you needed to survive is already provided. Mind you, i said everything you needed, not everything you wanted! It was not in His plan for man to lack whatever he needed in order to aid him throughout is wandering. If only you can have a glimpse of how your spiritual home actually looks like, then you will realise that poverty is strange to spirit beings. The scripture painted a perfect picture of your spiritual home, that the street of the city is made of gold, as if it was a transparent glass, a crystal. John had a glimpse of the Kingdom of God, its glorious and its magnificent beauty that it is endowed with and he was overwhelmed. If the human spirits originates from paradise, where it does not lack anything? Then why is majority of man confortable with poverty on earth? Lack of knowledge and indolence of the spirit!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> If God could feed and take care of the needs of plants, embracing them with dew in the morning and in due season, He provides them rain. and then top it up with a beautiful sunshine. Can you ever imagine how many animals there are is in the water world in the ocean? Both big and small animals? Guess who cares for them! Then how much more you, who is a spiritual being, who originates from the crown of creation, who has been given dominion to take charge of creation. You are a more responsible and a higher being. You are much more valuable in this creation than the animals and plants. Poverty was not among God's plans for man. Poverty is as a result of man's fault, not God.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Jesus Christ did not live in abject poverty as so many believers argued him to be. Just because He was laid in a feeding trough, does not mean Joseph and Mary was poor. It was time for Mary to deliver a baby and because there was no room for them in the inn, she gave birth when they went to Joseph's homeland, in Judaea, bethlehem. being a carpenter in those days, you are either a first class or a second class citizen. There is no where in the scripture where Christ was lacking. I had experienced and witness a lady giving birth in a public bus, it doesn't mean that she was that poor that she could not afford to gave birth in the hospital, but the time of delivery just came and she had no choice but to be delivered in that public bus with a bouncing baby girl. So just because at birth, Christ was wrapped in a swaddling clothes and laid in a feeding trough because there was no space for them, does not mean they were living in penury. Study the scripture for yourself and you will discover that men who truly devoted their earthly life to doing the Will of God, does not live in poverty. So i beg you not to be an ignoramus in this issue.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Majority of humanity are living under the poverty level and man is the cause alone. Intellectual dominance is accompanied with its evils in different categories. Selfishness, greed and being obsessed with earthly possessions is the main cause of poverty. We live in a world where everyone thinks about himself or herself alone. "Me or nobody else", we wants everything to be at our grasp at the expense of others who are also worthy of such things. Man himself is the architect of his suffering on earth, not God. God himself does not interfere with the affairs of man. But he has put in place His Will, Man being part of creation must abide by His Will. The Will of God is the HOLY SPIRIT. You cannot go against the Will of God without redeeming yourself from your guilt. Our lord Jesus Christ explained this in the scripture but many found it difficult to comprehend even till date(Matthew 12:31-32). Well that is not the topic, i donot want to digress from today's topic.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Lets take an individual as an example. An individual can be the cause of his poor standard of living during his existence on earth. Probably the person in this life or the past, s/he was hostile, wicked, oppressed the poor, while he was rich. So according to the law of reciprocal action, the person in question must reap what s/he has sown.He must be redeemed of this guilt that s/he has burden him or herself with. He will have to experience poverty, so that he can learn and free him or herself from such guilt. When the person has reached a stage in his experiencing and inwardly s/he truly repents and uses his or her volition for what is good, and noble , only then can s/he redeem himself of the guilt. i will write about repentance later. So, please be careful how you treat others, especially the needy, orphan and the desolated. Do not oppress or despise any, because the measure with which you measured will be measured back at you in multiple folds. Think twice before you take any action, if others will get hurt, do not do it.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Religions has not help matter in this aspect at all. Some religions believe that it is a taboo to be rich. That being poor make it easier to gain access to heaven. That is a wrong conception. And so many grew with such mentality. Am not instigating that religions should preach only prosperity sermon either. The truth is, Jesus Christ was not poor as believers stipulated him to be. God, the giver of all, gave you all you will ever needed to sustain you. So acquiring possessions is not wrong or bad, but rather, it will help you to advance spiritually. Remember, the body and the soul must be in good condition, in order for the spirit to be in a state of elation in creation and perform it responsibility in it. When your physical body is undergoing some kind of physical pressure, it will not be in harmonious with your soul. And the spirit needs the physical body to operate in this physical world. The body needs maintainance, the neccessary things it needs is air, food, water, shelter, care,and love. If man was able to regulate the amount of air that can be consumed by breathing? we would have been paying air bills by now,Lol!!! Most of these things of necessity that man needs on earth, due to civilisation and modernisation, are not free. You need money to get them. Do not let anyone discourage that money is not important. Actually, it is important. As long as you exist in this Gross material world, you will need money, to survive.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> There is a saying, "Money makes the world go round". there is an element of truth in that statement. The basic things you need on earth are bought, they donot just fall from the sky for you to use. The role of money cannot be over emphasised, but the pursuit of money should not be your top priority in your existence here on earth. You should treat money as a means to an end rather than an end in itself. Do not be obsess with money. Money itself is not evil, but the love of money is. Just like every other kind of evil, if you can control your intellect, then you will be able to deal with the love of money or wealth. Your intellect is a tool that you should make use of on this earth and not the other way round. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Your physical activities and spiritual activities on this Gross material world must be counterweighted. In as much as you need to improve on your physical standard of living? Do not forget that you are a spiritual being, your main goal on earth is to develop yourself spiritually and return home. The Vanity now is that everything physical thing that you acquire for yourself will not be taken with you when your physical body is laid to rest. You will discover that even the air you breath, you do not need it anymore. You take nothing with you. Everything remains here, while you move on with your astral body to face what you have prepared for yourself. Possessions are not the ultimate goal, but only an earthly means with which you sustain yourself here on earth. Do not live a wastful life, there are those who need just a liitle of that thing you waste.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Becareful in your dealings with others when it comes to the issue of money or any material possessions, the intellect can be very cunning and mischievious. The love of money can bring out the beast in an individual controlled by his or her intellect.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> "That he should cling" to earthly possession only means that man should not allow himself to go as far as to make their accumulation the main objective of his life on earth and thus "cling" mainly to this one idea! such an attitude is naturally bound to distract him from higher aims, and for which he will have no time left. Donot wear yourself out out in order to gain wealth. Let go off the love of wealth. While you are content with the present possessions, opportunities will always come at its own time. Make money but donot make it your topmost priority on your present existence. Donot lay for yourself treasure here on earth where thieves will break in and steal or where it will gather dust, but you need to set your sight on higher goals, the treasures that never rust, the spiritual home of the human spirits.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Therefore, all you true believers, do not despise worldly possessions, which could also have only been created through the Will of God, whom you seek to honour! But do not let the confort which such earthly possesssionscan afford lull you to sleep, but make sound use of them!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">What do you understand by the word "Purity"? Majority will still attribute purity to this physical world. The truth is, man has lost the true meaning of the word "Purity". Some believe that when the physical body is washed, then s/he is pure. Another set believes that physical virginity is purity. There are so many believes surrounding the word "Purity". Some even still believe that fasting makes them pure. All these believes are still somehow earthly, it proves completely the inferior way of thinking of those who subordinated themseves to the intellect, which has itself set the limits to everything earthly. Because it cannot reach any further, with its faculties that are born earthly.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Before i talk about purity, let me throw a little light on virginity. Being a virgin means being untouched, undefiled or not yet involved in sexual activities. It is good for every underage to be protected from sexual activities, because there is a kind of a protective covering keeping them safe from external influences. there body needs to develop to certain stage of maturity before this protective covering will be removed. untouched children are protected from influences from the ethereal world. Dark influential negative energies cannot reach them because of this covering. Now, this protective covering will remain with them till when the physical body is matured enough and the spirit becomes fully aware of its surroundings. Then the spirit that is not allowed to slumber by the intellect, will always find its path in life. So parents, please keep your children from early exposure to any sexual activities, because if this covering is being removed too early, it brings alot of influences along with it. It could be evil influences from the ethereal world! Teach the children about their physical body, be their best friend, let them be free to talk to you about anything. Tell them stories, let them learn from your mistakes or other people's mistakes. So parents, do not allow your children to be open to dark influences from the ethereal world, before the spirit takes control of your child's matured physical body. Your children are souls that has been put under your care by nature. Watch over them until the are old enough to make decision and become responsible.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I want you to know that being a virgin does not implies that you are pure. You can be a virgin, but if your thoughts, deeds and words speak evil of you, then you are not pure or better still, your not a chaste. A non virgin can be a chaste, while a virgin might not be a chaste. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I want to use this opportunity to talk more about purity and chastity. "Purity is Divine", only the beings in the Divine realm can attain purity. The fact that man originated from the spiritual realm, implies that man cannot attain a state of purity here on earth with his physical body. The conception of purity cannot be grasp by man on earth. Now, the spiritual representation of the Divine purity is chastity. Just like Purity, man has also lost the true meaning of chastity too. Man can only attain a state of chastity and not purity. Only Dinvine beings can attain purity, not spirits. So most times in this blog when i ask you to always keep your thoughts pure, i am actually teaching you how to practice chastity. Chastity is different from man's idea of it, its far more comprehensive than just abstaining oneself from sexual activities. Since we as human beings can only practice chastity, then i guess i should just use the word "Chastity" in place of "Purity" in this article. And donot worry, i know why i titled the article "PURITY".</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> To practice chastity, it should suffice as a fundamental law for every maturing human spirit. In the Divine realm, purity is closely united with love! In the spiritual realm, chastity and love are close united too! So for you to attain chastity on this gross material world i.e this physical world, you should not try to seperate it from love! </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> You cannot clean your physical body, and expect that you are practicing chastity, if you are inwardly dirty, then its of no use cleaning your physical body alone. You cannot wash the outter part of a cup, while the inner part is dirty, such cup is not worthy of use in serving a drinking water. the first you have to do is to clean the inside of that cup first, then every other thing follows. Just like i always say, keep your the thought of your hearth pure, always renew your mind with what is noble and clean. Meditate on the scriptures or whatsoever book is it that you believe is noble. please, am not talking about occult books. Keep yourself from filthy environments like a sexually incited places, so that you do not become contaminated ethereally, free yourself from all negative thought forms. Keep your inner garment clean and your physical garment will become clean automatically.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Chastity lies in the Will Of God, so it does not demands that man should go against nature; that would be an offense against the laws vibrating in creation and could only result in harmful effects.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Charity can help clean your inner garments, clear you off your numerous guilt that you have burden yourself with. Your thoughts will become pure when you become a chaste. Always endeavor to love, respect and serve others around you. Rejoice with with someone who is happy. Learn to pray for your loved ones, friends, neighbours, leaders, and even to those you think hates you. You do not have to know someone before you are good to that person, s/he does not have to be same tribe or race with you, so stop tribalism and racism. Let people know you for what is good and noble. Your love for people must be equal and unconditional. If you really want to know what true love on earth is, study a mother-child love. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> For man today, selfisness, hatred, backbiting, lusts and many more lead the way. Man cannot do anything, anymore without thinking about himself first. If there is no material gain, he would not serve.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Do you know that every religion preaches love? Every religion preaches chastity? then why are there so much evil in our society? The truth is, even the religious bodies are not spared from intellectual dominance. There is much evil because man has totally submitted to the rule of the intellect. He has allow the intellect to take control of his every activities. The intellect cannot truly love. Love is strange to it, likewise chastity.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Remember, you are a stranger in the Gross material world. You are here to uplift this subsequent creation. You are here to become a fully grown, developed human spirit being. Think of your stay here on earth as a school, you are in school to learn, to become educated, to improve on yourself and if you do not do well in a particular examination, an opportunity will be given to you to resit for such an examinaton again. Hence, an opportunity for everyone to graduate. The truth is that you have been on this earth before, your existence on earth right now is not the first, but it can be your last if you study well and pass your examination i.e living in accordance with the Will of your Creator. Love and chastity are in accordance with the WILL OF GOD.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Always strive to attain chastity. You might be asking, "How do i become a chaste"? If you want to be a chaste, then endeavor to practice the following; "He who in his actions always remembers not to harm his fellow-man who reposes trust in him, not to do anything that may later oppress him, will always act in such a way as to remain spiritually unburdened, and may therefore be called truly chaste!". Our Lord Jesus Christ was simply saying the same with the statement; "Love thy neighbour as thyself". These words look simple, but they carry enormous power in them. These simple words, rightly understood, can fully protect and guide man through the entire creation and lead the human spirit back to the luminous garden. The spiritual realm. The home of the human spirits. These words are the key to rightful activities here on earth, for you to be a genuine chaste, you must practice this words. But you must beware of falling back into the old human faults, and of once more construing and partly distorting the meaning of these powerful words of our Lord Jesus Christ, so as to make them suit your own purpose and soothe you in your own doing. Absorb these words as they are truly meant to be absorbed, not as it appear convenient to you and suit your stubborn voliton. Only then will this words be like the keenest sword in your hand, with which you can slay all Darkness if you but will it. Let these words become alive within you in the right way so that, filled with gratitude, you can grasp life on earth as a jubilant victor! </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">From the articles "WHO AM I", and "THE ARRIVAL OF MAN ON EARTH", i wrote about the origin of man , as a spirit-germ who has journey downward through creation. This is not the first time you have existed on this earth. you have been here several times. You might have been on earth in your past earth life as a dark skin person or light skin person. You could have been rich or poor, disabled or able bodied. That does not matter now. What matters now is your present existence on earth. But, while your here, try as much as possible to develop yourself spiritually. But you cannot develop yourself spiritually, without your physical body being in good health. The spirit, the soul and the physical body must be in good health in order for them to relate harmoniously. Your body is a gift, you must take care of.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man on earth is more of a visitor here on earth, he is to stay for the main time and then return back into the unseen world, the beyond. The beyond is quite different from what you have been hearing from your religious teachings. Man cannot just lay down his physical body and expect to see God and rest in his bossom which is a popular saying. even in your most developed form spiritually, you cannot see God in His unsubstantiate form. The boundary of the human spirit is the Spiritual realm, he cannot enter into the Divine realm.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In this article, i want to compare man as a cell in the human body. His responsibilties as an individual in creation and as a human being on earth. Every human spirit here on earth has a physical body enthrusted to it. Except for those souls who has been earthbounded. All humans are from the same origin, irrespective of what position you attain here on earth. I want to use the analogy of a human body to explain the importance of every human being on earth. Before i make any comparison, i need to highlight some biological terms. Do not worry, i will make it a little simple for you to grasp, incase your not a science person. But incase you already know much, just skip the next paragraphs and move to the 9th paragraph.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Cells are smallest unit of life, they serves as building blocks and functional units of life. the study of cells is known as cell biology. An organism with only one cell is called unicellular organism and the one with more than one cell is a multicellular organism. Man is a multicellular organism, likewise all animals and plant that you can see without the use of microscope. The human body contains trillions of cells, each with a special purpose of existing. cells are in different sizes, but each of them has a specific function they partake in. Example of cells are the muscle cells, fat cells, nerve cells e.t.c</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, when cells emsembles themselves together in order to carry out a specific function and purpose, the colony that is formed is called Tissue. Each cell must take part in the development of a tissue. The study of tissue is known as Histology. Examples are the connective tissue, muscle tissues e.t.c The cell in one tissue can be slightly different structurally from cells in another kind of tissue for example, the cell in a muscular tissues has the ability to stretch and contract depending on the conditions surrounding it, while the cells in other tissues might not have such feature. The functions of tissues in the body are so numerous that i can only list but a few. Tissues help the body in absorbing water and nutrients, they help in the elimination of waste product from the body, they also take part in the transportation of fluids and other substances in the body.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Tissues in turn ensembles together to form an organ. each organ in the body, with different size and shapes in the body perform a specific functions. this collective tissues must work together harmoniously, if an organ is to be in good health. The brain is the most complex of all the organs in the body. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The working together of all the organs in the organs in the body, with their different purposes, forms the organ system or simply called body system. Example of a body system is the nervous system which comprises of the muscles, nerves, brain e.t.c The muscular system enables body movement.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Lastly, these systems, working together to form a complete whole organism. many parts make up a whole organism. As you observe the body closely, you will notice that it is made up of parts within parts. A replica of creation as a whole. The little occurence that you can observe in this physical world is just a replica of bigger occurence in creation. Another example, can you identify the similarities between our solar system and the revolutions of electrons round the nucleus of an atom? </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, i want to make the comparison of the responsibilities of man in creation and that of a cell in the body system. The first thing you need to know is that every human being is an individual. we are to experience ourselves individually, but we are a part of a whole. There is a bond that connects all humans as one. So the individual being can be imagined as a cell in the body. An individual cell can exist on its own such the amoeba, paramecium e.t.c most cells in the human body system needs to associate with other cells close to it in order for it to function well and survive. The human society is built in such a way that you need your fellow humans in order to survive. Every cell is as important as every other cell in the body system irrespective of its specific function. The same way you are of utmost important in creation, especially, this subsequent creation.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, lets imagine a cell in a tissue as you in your family, relatives, friends, neighbours, village, province, your street, your immediate vicinity. You cannot overemphasize the important role your family had played in your existence on earth right from the day you were born till now. You have to be grateful for your earthly family into which you were born. Honor your parent because of the love they have bestowed upon you. You do not have to be biologically descended from them before he or she becomes your parent. It is good to participate in activities that will uplift that your immediate environment. Your contributions matters alot in their little ways. A tissue comprises of colony of cells and must survive by the contribution of each cell in that colony. I want you to know that you influence your surroundings and the people around you one way or the other with your thoughts, words and deeds. Mostly your thoughts, we will talk about your thoughts probably in the nearest future. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The organs can be liken to the larger society, the town, city, a country. Do not discriminate, no matter what part of the country you are from. Do not allow any form of disunity arise between two or more people. always strive to bring peace between you and others. Remember, everybody is your neighbour as long as he/she is a co- sojourner on earth.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Lets take the organism as a whole as the creation. you being a creature in this part of creation has a responsibilities to uphold this subsequent creation by the living creative power that you as a spirit have been endowed with. hmmmm responsibilities!! That is a topic on it own. But i will give you a little hints here. In creation, their is only one power streaming through it. There is not such thing good powers and evil powers. There is only one power and that one power only originates from God. Man has been given the ability to direct this Divine power in the direction he wishes. according to the volition of man, i.e the will of Man, he can direct this power for the good of mankind, and to further the development of this subsequent creation or use it to destroy what he is suppose to build. You can decide to use your thoughts, words and deeds to make this earth a better place or destroy it. But which ever decision you take, remember the Law of Reciprocal action.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Do not mind your physical appearance, you are just like your fellow humans spiritually. you are not different from your neighbours spiritually. Man should forget about his skin colours and focus on how to uplift himself. Treat others as you will have them treat you. Avoid creating disunity wiithin yourself. Each one works for everyone and everyone works for each one. Just like each cell has a role to play in the seemed mighty organism, so are your importance in creation. Especially, this subsequent creation. use your imaginations to fight darkness and use your deeds too. let your words uplift people around you instead of bringing them down. Let love lives inside you, love for your fellow humans, love for nature, love for your God.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, if what you desire is to use the power for evil, then you will be creating an imbalance in creation. If a cell, tissue, organ or a system refuse to function properly, then it will cause the whole organism a grievous pain. what will happen is that the body of the organism needs the infected part to heal itself, if not, then it has to be eliminated. The same with those whose propensity is to do evil. </span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">Prayer! If i may ask, what do you understand by the word "Prayer"? Different people reads different meaning to the word. Majority see prayer as a means to make their request known to God. Some see prayer as a means of sipritual warfare. While some only pray when they are passing through hard periods in their life. I have heard people praying for their enemies to die, which is a very wrong conception on their own part. you do not pray for your enemies to die, that is if really you have one, rather, bless them. such prayers can not even reach the ceiling of the room.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man must learn the real meaning of prayer, else he will continue to pray amiss. When you find out that meaning, you will find out what really counts is not what you are, but what you may become. Then you will begin to pray an effective prayer. Despite a general misunderstanding as to the real meaning of prayer, no intelligent person will deny its value in any progressive plan of life.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> In the article "LET THE THOUGHT OF THOU HEART BE PURE", i talked about the necessity of keeping your thoughts pure. That is the only way in which you can live a happy life on earth and thereafter you are severed from your physical body. Your thoughts are as important as your deeds and words. Prayer is more of a person sending out thought-forms. The main purpose of prayer will become effective through reciprocal action.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Let me use this opportunity to talk about the effect of prayer on your physical body. Prayer enlivens the inner man, i.e The spirit, by stimulating constructive excitation of the human emotions. Prayer brings about balance between the intuitive perception and the intellect, thereby, having a stabilizing effect upon the human organism. Prayer subdues the turbulence of the intellectual conflicts within and effects a state of harmony in the entire consciousness. This peaceful and harmonious state of mind will result in a healthier condition of the body. The influence of prayer could result in terms of increased physical buoyancy, greater intellectual vigor, moral stamina and a deeper understanding of realities underlying human relationships. A genuine prayer always bring calmness, strength, recovery, plans suddenly arising in the mind, the solution to difficult problems etc. Something good will always come of it, be it only increased composure and some way out of that difficulty. Prayer does not necessarily involves uttering of words, it is more like a kind of meditation, sending out positive and constructive thoughts which become effective through reciprocal action. The heart, as the pump of life in the physical body, beats more quickly in response to the greatness of good. The heart is virtually "lifted" with prayer.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I do not want to talk about principal roles the laws of creation that make prayers effective such as the law of attraction of homogeneous species and law of reciprocal action plays and the ethereal happenings of the thoughts sent out during prayers. But should you want to know more? please seek the Grail message. I do not want to confuse you here.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> For you to pray, there must be an inner urge to pray, if not, then do not even bother to pray, because your wolds or thoughts will dissolve into nothing. For you to pray, you must feel the urge to pray. If prayer is not felt deeply within you through and through, it has no value and therfore will have no effect. The best foundation for a prayer which may be expected to have effect lies in those moments of spontaneous thankfulness rising out of great happiness or of deepest pain resulting from heartfelt grief. In such moments a person is filled with one particular intuitive perception which dominates all else. Thus, enabling the main wish of the prayer. And when you want to pray, always try to be alone, and in a quiet place. Pray in quietness and purity, so that the power of the intuitive perception will be increased through purity that luminous lightness which will enable the prayer to be carred upward to the heights of all that is light and pure. By pure, i mean purification of your thoughts, because when you always strive to think what is noble, and good, it will always reflects in your choice of words. However, your posture during prayer does not matter at all.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> As soon as the urge to pray becomes alive within you, you can achieve purity in prayer. It does not matter which religous denomination you belong, you can attain purity and your prayer receiving the required attention that it needs. The peace of seclusion and the deeper concentration helps to strengthen the power of a prayer. Also you need to free yourself of all negative emotions such as doubt, anxiety, fear etc. Prayers are not answered by its many words, but by the sincerity with which it is being prayed. So repetition of words ought to be avoided, if possible, pray with your thoughts only, and not with words.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> When you pray, take note of your wandering thought. The truth is that, when you want to pray, you have to let go everything and concentrate. And do not manifold your pray, you do not approach God in prayer with so many request, thoughts. The way in which you must approach your creator is with a petition about that which oppresses you, most disturbing and most important at that particular moment in which you pray. Do not pray for something that does not really bother you, since such prayer cannot come alive deep within your intuition. It become an empty form and quite naturally weakens some other and perhaps really necessary request. Therefore, pray for what is really necessary only. All empty phrases should be avoided. Do not disturb others with your prayer, rather, do not let them know you are praying. Unless you are praying to impress others. Such prayers are bound to fall to pieces and must foster hypocrisy!</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Just like i said before, your prayers can be answered, irrespective of your religion. Be prayerful, because there are lots and lots of benefits that comes with it. A helping hand will always be extended downward towards you when you pray genuinely and effectively.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;">I want to commence with an explanation of what i call "THE GOLDEN GIFT". You use it everyday, but you do nothing with it. Does that sound impossible to you? Well, take for example, a child with a pencil, each day the child takes up his pencil and scibbles. He cannot write, he cannot compute, he cannot draw. So while he uses the pencil everyday, he actually does nothing with it. What then is the Golden gift, whose powers you use so casually? As you may know that all physical animals on earth needs a kind of nervous system in order for its entire physical body to be controlled. You will recall from past articles that man's physical body is purely animistic? Therefore, his body is controlled also by the nervous system. Now, The Golden gift is the main organ of the nervous system i.e The Brain. Let me give you a hint on why am call it the Golden gift. Your brain is a Golden gift, in your brain lies the power to make use of all your untapped resources. Your brain is more "Golden" and more of a gift than that. Your brain not only supplies the power to use your potentialities, it also holds all the resources you possess.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The Golden gift can bring you longer life, better health, greater wealth, increased happiness, more vitality. In short, your brain gives you the power to control all the essential aspects of a full life and full living. It is also a means by which the spirit can communicate with the physical body.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> I want to carry everybody reading this article along, even if you are not science oriented. lets divide the human brain into two parts namely: The frontal brain and the hindbrain. The frontal brain is much bigger than the hindbrain, it is associated with with executive functions such as reasoning, planning, vision, motor control, abstract thought, language, voluntary breathing and sleeping are also controlled by the brain. The frontal brain is the intellectual part of the brain, which man needs on order to be able to interact in this physical world and there is nothing spiritual about the frontal brain, therefore, it is bounded by time and space. The hindbrain much smaller than the frontal brain and it is located just behind the frontal brain. It is the hindbrain that is spiritually connected, it is the medium with which the spirit can commune with the physical body. It is the bridge with which the spirit can pass intuitive perception to the frontal bain for interpretation. Well, i will explaine that one later but not in this article.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Now, the question is, how did sin or wrong doing originated from? It might surprise you to know that in the early days of man on earth, the frontal brain was once the same size as the hindbrain. Sin was the consequence of the origin fall of man. The sin or wrong doing lay in the over-cultivation of the intellect, associated with which was the voluntary chaining of man to time and space. There were additional effects resulting from purely intellectual activities such as love of gain, imposing on others, oppression etc which again brought about many others, infact, all evils in their train. Through being continually exerted, the frontal brain which produces the intellect became disproportionately enlarged. It was therefore quite natural due to the course of evolution that this change in structure expressed itself in the procreation of the physical body and that at birth, children entered this world with an increasedly developed and stronger frontal brain.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> When man made the intellect power to dominate all else, he not only chains himself to time and space, but also to everything that is earthly and gross material. He then became incapable of grasping anything that is ethereal or spiritual. Due to his inability to grasp anything, all that he grasp before his fall has become fables, fairy tales, legends and stories and in addition entangles himself in all sorts of evil, which is inevitable, where the intellect dominates.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> The Hereditary sin is the coming into this physical world with this voluntary over-cultivated frontal brain, containing the danger of a mere intellectual domination with its inevitable evil manifestations. Man on earth today inherit this excessive artificial cultivation of the frontal brain which exposes man from birth to the danger of too easily entangling himself in evil. At any rate of narrow-mindedness which results from enchainment to course matter makes it more difficult to recognise God. That wad why the religious leaders days could not recognise our Lord Jesus Christ as the Son of God. Even if Christ is to come today, the religious leaderd of today will still rise up against him because in today's world of matter, the intellect has gained massive dominance and it opposes every spiritual.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Man must always make endeavor to control his physical body, including his intellect. And the way to take control of the body is for the spirit to take over but the truth is most people are spiritually indolent, canal, controlled by the lust for flesh. Do not be conformed to this physical world. Man inherited only the danger, not the sun itself, therefore, he is in no wise compelled to allow his intellect to rule unconditionally and thus, submitting himself to it. On the contrary, he can wield the greatest power of the intellect like a sharp sword to clear his path in his daily bustle of life, as directed by his intuitive perception, which also called "THE INNER VOICE".</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Sinning against your body, means abusing the physical body, thereby, going against nature, because your body physical body is part of nature. By abusing the physical body? i mean debasing the human body even to the lower than the level of animals. Do not abuse your body exerting to much strain in it like excessive sex, excessive alcohol, over-feeding. Smoking is not only harmful to your body, the it has on the environment and others around who inhale it too. And when are against nature, that means you refuse to observe the laws governing nature, and creation at large.</span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> Sin is actually when man refuse to observe the laws governing creation, the Will of God, the Holy spirit. It is utterly impossible the sin against the Holy spirit, without paying for your sin. what you sow, you must reap, no two ways about it. Just because a set of people believes that something is a sin, does not make that thing a sin. I will discuss more on sin in the future. I would have loved to continue but i want you to absorb today's article.</span><br />
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